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SlightlyConfused0 Tue 14-Mar-17 09:50:50

Bit of background, I've worked for my company almost a year, we've recently had a new manager who is going back through old sales and clients. I lost a big client recently and they're trying to bring that client back on, which I completely understand.

I'm not in anyway easily offended or upset but this particular client is creepy and regularly makes vulgar comments to me which left me not wanting to service this client properly. This client knows I used to be a gymnast after google searches of my name and regularly says things like 'come and mount me like you used to mount vaults' and asking me to bring him food to his office naked. Client has also admitted to checking my personal Facebook regularly. He makes ridiculous requests purposely so I'll feel under pressure, which most my clients do but it's like his way of controlling me? I've now deactivated my Facebook so he can no longer peek at my personal life. I raised these issues with my manager who laughed it off.

They're still pushing me to go for meetings with this client and to be honest, the thought of just calling him makes me feel sick! Do I have to do this?! sad

QuestionableMouse Tue 14-Mar-17 09:53:20

I'd flatly refuse and go higher if need be. Did you keep a record of the comments?

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Tue 14-Mar-17 09:54:54

Sexual harassment isn't on and if they want the client tell them to send a man. .

TitaniasCloset Tue 14-Mar-17 09:57:47

That's not right, I think you should complain and refuse to deal with him.

What a creep!!

tribpot Tue 14-Mar-17 10:00:09

Take it as high as you need to - you absolutely do not need to put up with this disgusting treatment.

MarklahMarklah Tue 14-Mar-17 10:11:48

Agree with all of the above. If your manager won't support you, go higher up the chain. The client's behaviour is unacceptable.

SlightlyConfused0 Tue 14-Mar-17 10:27:34

It honestly fills me dread thinking about calling him. I've raised it with my manager again and all she says is she'll come along to the meeting to support me. I don't want to face this client at all, I don't want to lose my job though. sad

I haven't kept a record of the comments, they were verbally said and I raised them after, it was brushed off and pushed aside. I have dealt with many clients in the past who have tried to overstep the mark and been able to solve the issue effectively. Except this one, he makes me feel sick!

daisychain01 Tue 14-Mar-17 10:55:57

I would raise it as a formal grievance. Your employer knows already that you have been harassed and they are ignoring you. Make it formal.

They won't sack you if they know their employment law. Harassment based on your gender (a protected characteristic), they have no grounds to sack you for refusing to be demeaned.

They should put a formal complaint through to the customer's employer telling them the facts, so that they can discipline him through their own employment processes. Stop him in his tracks.

highinthesky Tue 14-Mar-17 10:58:14

Your manager is at fault here for not taking your complaint seriously. But you know this already.

daisychain01 Tue 14-Mar-17 12:55:01

I've raised it with my manager again and all she says is she'll come along to the meeting to support me

That plays right into that abuser's hands. He will go out of his way to be totally professional and it will weaken your case.

You should not be subjected to any further contact with your abuser!!

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