She said she'd have walked out by now

[Paradiseocean]

I really need some advice please.
I have started a new role that I have never done before.
The company seems to have had a reshuffle with moving people from locations and employees including managers being demoted.
I overheard some bitter conversations from my manager and I don't quite know what politics I have walked into.
Anyway, from day one the manager has refused to help me and left me completely to it. When I'd ask her for help she'd say wait a minute and then say she's too busy with her work to help me. She has also said she doesn't know anything about the portfolio I've been given even though she manages the team.
The colleagues on my team obviously noticed this and started to approach me and say things like "I would have walked out by now" and "how do they expect you to know what to do", "it's wrong what she's done to you" and "it's unfair to give somebody a whole workload that even a person who is experienced in the role would struggle with."
One of the ladies took me under her wing because she was so disgusted and has helped me. I think she voiced how unfair I've been treated and was called in by the manager. My colleague wanted the team to take on my work load between us until she can help me learn the processes, as I will be horribly behind and urgent things have needed to be done whilst I've been left floundering. I overheard the manager saying,"I'm not doing it, I'm not doing it"to her friend after my lovely colleague suggested it.
The bottom line is I'm very concerned about having a manager who is unsupportive, speaks to me with a very inpatient tone and seems to want to see me fail, so that I don't pass my probation.
I feel like I'm being sabotaged.
I also have a sister with acute myeloid leukaemia and my auntie has 3 months to live with bone cancer and I'm finding the pressure hard to deal with.
I have started to get horrible anxiety and would like to know WWYD?

[MichaelSheensNextDW]

Write all this out with dates and email HR.
It's far from ok and you need to proactively protect yourself from any complaint or disciplinary for not getting work completed or completed to expected standard.
As the role is new to you they must have stated that training/support would be given. Hold them to this.
They sound like a monumental fuck up tbh.
Look for another job.

[Timeforabiscuit]

What michael said, it sounds absolutely dreadful on its own without the added pressures of seriously ill family.

[Lilaclily]

Oh thats awful op

Definitely take it all to HR

So sorry to hear about your family members too

[Paradiseocean]

Thank you for all your replies. I am glad of the support and I have no one else who can advise me.

The thing is I am worried that if I go to HR I will be seen as some kind of trouble maker. I just have a feeling that if I voice my concerns and the manager finds out she will vindictively go after me in other ways. I just feel that once somebody treats you like that they will carry on. If the company had a choice they'd get rid of a new starter over a team manager - when they've been in the company for nearly 20 years.

Also could somebody please advise me on how you would put it to HR, as I really don't know what to say or how to say it?

[HotChoc10]

Keep records and tell HR