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BeyondaJoke Mon 09-Jan-17 19:51:53

This might be long, so apologies in advance and I have name changed so my usual name is not associated with this post...

Have worked happily for over 10yrs in a low level admin role. Huge change last year, new boss - restructure and half my job was made redundant.

Was offered an alternative job in same organisation which after much wrangling with boss I took on a 4 day week, at the same time voicing concerns that the job and the remainder of my old job was too much work for part time.

Job has gone reasonably well, I enjoy the work but feel constantly swamped with work. I was stiffed with a project in the autumn which has been all consuming and has at times pushed me to the edge. I wasn't given a choice, was told I was doing it and that was that.

Mentioned to my LM I was feeling overwhelmed before Xmas. Was told they felt the same.

Last week I worked non stop, missed lunch a few times, head down working hard. I'm not a shirker. Boss was off sick, came back today. Requested some work from me which I hadn't been given advance warning of and I said 'I'll do my best but I'm swamped with work'.

OMG, boss saw their arse, accused me of not working hard enough and I snapped.
I threatened to leave then and there and we had a massive slanging match.

Eventually things calmed down and my boss went to speak to their boss, the upshot being we are meeting to discuss my workload tomorrow.

I feel like going off sick. Every day I drive to work fighting with myself not to drive into the path of an oncoming lorry.

If I go off sick, they will know I'm being awkward. Part of me wants them to know I'm being awkward and part of me wants to go in and fight for improvements to my workload.

I am so insulted at being accused of not working hard enough, that has never happened to me. angry
Wouldn't mind but my boss is continually on eBay and taking personal calls, so not the hardest working person I've ever met!

What to do?

daisychain01 Mon 09-Jan-17 20:31:40

In readiness for your meeting, I would

1. Write a list of your workload (task, approximate time on task, maybe a rating for complexity High Medium Low)

2. Jot down the circumstances of the slanging match with your boss. Who said what, dates times. How it made you feel

Ask for an agenda in advance. If you feel you need the support , ask if you can be accompanied by a colleague.

Although your boss does things you don't agree with, put those out of your mind, frustrating though they are and focus on your circumstances

Good luck x

BeyondaJoke Thu 12-Jan-17 19:48:00

Thanks daisychain01, had the meeting and the project I got stiffed with has now been given to the member of staff who should have been involved initially.


I said from the outset they should be dealing with it. Sadly, I've done most of it but at least I won't be bothered by it again! Was a lovely feeling signing off from that! smile

daisychain01 Thu 12-Jan-17 23:20:29

Have they swept the other stuff under the carpet though?

Sounds like you off loaded the project work which is good, but has there been acknowledgement that they need to change the way they treat you in general?

BeyondaJoke Fri 13-Jan-17 17:56:15

God no and I don't expect there to be either!

Luckily as I get older my tolerance level reduces and I am getting pretty good at sticking up for myself when I feel bullied/victimised.

The downside of that is, I'd get a crap reference from them if I tried to get another job which is a big shame because I am a good worker angry

daisychain01 Fri 13-Jan-17 19:31:04

As I've come to realise, if you need to move jobs, see if you can get a very basic reference on company letterhead which simply states your dates of employment.

That being done, you can then approach individuals who did appreciate your hard work and they will give a work specific reference re specific projects you've done for them.

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