Little bit of background...so I have just taken up a management role in my office to cover maternity leave. Ive been member of staff for 10 years and often cover maternity/sickness for managers but Ive never fancied doing it permanently so have always declined when it was offered. My new team consists of 15 staff who I am responsible for, usual stuff, checking their work, prioritising and dealing with their HR etc. I stress I have also worked with everyone on the team for a number of years and always thought I got really well with everyone.
Well today that illusion was well and truly shattered when I was unceremoniously screamed at by a colleague. At the time I kept my cool and just asked him to calm down and we would speak later about it. After around half an hour we went to have a chat and he proceeded to tell me everyone on my team dislikes me, that i had been agressive toward him on numerous occassions and I was unprofessional.
This has absolutely devastated me beyond words. I can handle criticism fine and I expect them to have a little chatter behind my back when Ive asked them to keep the noise down or asked why they havent met their targets but it felt really personal today. I dont think Ive ever been aggressive toward anyone and i always put 100% into anything i do at work.
I was so hurt i went to the loo and cried told my boss i had a migraine then came home. I dont want to go in tmrw now either.
Can anyone offer any advice on what i should do? I am seriously considering just withdrawing from the management role and keeping myself to myself. I cant sleep with worry about what i have done to make people who i thought were my friends dislike me.
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help...apparently my whole team hate me!!
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seriouslydudegivemecake · 11/10/2016 23:55
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