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Colleague wont leave me alone

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Jewell88 Thu 08-Sep-16 16:05:17

Ok, So, back in January I found out I was pregnant smile Everything was great. Then my boss took on a new lady to work besides me in a small admin office. She seemed lovely and bubbly, however over the last 9 months, teaching her the work has been a mission. She never listened to me, and to the day still finds the work very hard and when she gets under pressure, she goes into a tizz and cant really handle it. She knew that she wasn't very good so every day she would arrive to work with gifts for every one (mainly donuts from asda etc) so everyone over looked her mistakes she would make every day and thought she was amazing because she always fed them (used car salesmen) Any how, last week I started my maternity leave! Since last Monday I have been inundated with texts from her, not to do with queries in work which I said I would be happy to help with, but I receive drunk texts from her saying that her husband is ill one night, then texting me about her love affair with a man from another company, then the next night sending me texts which make no sense (example: I found what you were looking for') I think because I don't reply to her, she sends me these sort of texts because she thinks I will have to reply by saying 'found what?'.
My point here is that I feel as though I did my fair share in teaching the woman my knowledge of the work, now its my time to relax and be excited. I don't want all of this hassle. I am a very introvert person, so I do find it a bit hard to just send a text and say LEAVE ME ALONE! I may have to go back to work with this woman once my maternity leave ends! She sent me a text this morning saying 'I'm not going in to work today, I'm coming round to see you'. She has never been to my house before, but knows which end of the street that I live on, so literally all day I have been upstairs cleaning because I am too afraid she will see me downstairs if she did look through my living room window!
Any one have any ideas please?

WhatTheActualFugg Thu 08-Sep-16 16:10:45

Just block her number. You don't need to be dealing with crazy people or stress at this time!

When I was pg with dc1 a colleague I would occasionally lunch with or go for drinks after work started referring to herself as my 'best friend' and would rub my tummy and talk to the bump so the baby would recognise her voice!!!

I just started to ignore her. Even the ones saying "don't know what I've done to upset you"etc. Eventually she went away and we both gotnonnwith our lives.

If she does turn up. Don't let her in. Tell her you're busy/tired, or just ignore the doorbell.

And don't worry about work, there's no way she'll still be there. And if she is just say you had to change your phone number because some weirdo was stalking you!!!

FuzzyOwl Thu 08-Sep-16 16:10:47

I would block her number and forget all about her.

Hope you enjoy your maternity leave and time with your newborn in peace.

DameFanny Thu 08-Sep-16 16:13:02

Ask your manager to have a word with her about disturbing you while you're in maternity leave - she sounds like a loon and you need this discouraged now.

Jewell88 Thu 08-Sep-16 16:20:25

Thanks everyone, I think I will have to block her from my phone. Literally this minute I just had a call from 'unknown' so I answered and no one spoke. Its getting a little out of hand and I feel like instead of concentrating on the baby and labour and me, all I can think about is this bloody woman!!
Thanks so much everyone for replying smile made me feel so much better
Rhian xxxxx

Shakey15000 Thu 08-Sep-16 21:18:09

Ye gads, as if you need this! Yup, I'd be speaking to my manager and getting her to tell her to back the fuck off. She sounds unhinged.

LeonardInTheArgosBag Thu 08-Sep-16 21:36:22

Whoa. That's wayyy OTT. Definitely block. And if she finds a way to get in touch it's "sorry, busy with the baby. Every hour for the next year." Babies are handy like that.

WhatTheActualFugg Thu 08-Sep-16 21:43:05

Oh dear, that's a bit too creepy. Make sure you keep every message, make a diary note of every weird phone call. Just in case.

And as pp said, get in touch with your manager.


pluck Sun 11-Sep-16 20:47:14

Tell her explicitly not to contact you at all, and flag this up with your management. What with all the "evidence" you have, they may be able to get rid of her for gross misconduct, if they haven't been able to for incompetence. She sounds not just useless but actively counter-productive!

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