Hello everyone - looking for some advice/suggestions/words of comfort
Basic issue - am in a moderately high-flying career, and have a job that really suits me (like it, good pay, commute etc so want to stay!)
I have a bit of history of interpersonal issues at work - people think I am rude, don't listen etc: I actually take this quite seriously as has caused me loads of problems (plus who wants to be rude!) so gone into psychotherapy to sort issues out and making good progress
Meanwhile, I inherited a new boss in a restructure who particularly does not appreciate my style (which I am working on!)
She has: refused a promotion I applied for last year, and now promoted someone above my head -always get great ratings for work, it's the personal stuff that is the issue, problem is I don't even know I am being rude
Her issues with me: I don't listen, apparently am disrespectful/rude 'don't realise I need to change'
I have a new line manager now, who is (apparently) coaching me on this (all under big boss who doesn't like me) I am not sure if I am being set up to fail/put on disciplinary - as give a dog a bad name etc
Feeling battered, want to improve to fix these issues, not sure if I can though
I think my next moves are
- look for a new job!! I have been looking for a year though and not found anything
- NEVER interrupt
- be super respectful I suppose (keep my head down, maybe get in early/leave late..)
- never disagree/challenge others (I think this is the problem)
- be 'super sweet'
Any suggestions? Especially from anyone who has resolved this issue themselves, or if you are a perso who would be annoyed by me: what can I do to quickly demonstrate a changed attitude (whilst I am slowly working on the real deal)