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ivf just before starting new job

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happyish Thu 30-Jun-16 15:44:07

Hello, I would love to hear some opinions on my predicament.
I have been headhunted for an amazing new position starting in a few months time in a small but very successful business with one main partner. I have had 2 failed rounds of ivf, and prior to finding out about the post was planning to start a third cycle next week. Our chances of success are pretty low. This new job has been the best thing that has happened to me in a long time, we have had a very miserable year of repeated ivf failures. I am so worried I am going to mess up this position if we go ahead with the ivf and it is successful. Where would I stand becoming pregnant after accepting a position but before starting a job? I know I will not qualify for maternity pay, but the cost of replacing me whilst on maternity leave would be high in my profession and would fall to a single person as only one main partner. I can't really think straight about this or seperate my feelings, on one hand I want to be able to say I tried everything to have a family but on the other hand I have had enough of ivf and desperately want to stop. Once I start this position it will be very difficult to do any further cycles due to long work hours, and with my declining fertility putting it off really isnt an option. Any advice greatly appreciated.

Changesofmind Thu 30-Jun-16 20:49:28

Honestly? If your IVF succeeds you won't care about the job or the implications as much. And if it doesn't, at least you'll have something to look forward to.

Your employer needs to allow you some leniency if you choose to continue IVF after this attempt.

Go for the job and don't feel guilty. You could still carry on with IVF if you wanted to. If you did get PG this cycle then the only thing you'll lose out on is 6 weeks of SMP at 90% pay as you'll still qualify for MA.

I'd go for it but certainly wouldn't rule out carrying on IVF if you decide that's what you want to do.

happyish Fri 01-Jul-16 12:34:38

Thanks changes I guess I've forgotten with all the stress how wonderful it will be if we do succeed and how little a job will matter. I guess I just have to go for it and see what happens

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