Hi all,
I have posted before about feeling trapped in my current career (specialist nurse in NHS) and how the stress is impacting on my physical and mental health. I am not sleeping, am constantly anxious or tearful and can't even enjoy my days off anymore as I spend them worrying about work and dreading going back in.
I have been offered a job as a Pastoral Care Manager in a local secondary school. The school has an excellent reputation and I was struck by what a happy, supportive environment it seemed when I visited and spoke to a few of the staff, although I am aware that there is only so much you can tell from a one off visit! I am excited about the role and was very impressed with the person who would be managing me, felt that we were very much on the same wavelength etc. It is a 5-10 minute drive from home whereas my current commute is around 45 minutes depending on traffic, although I can't say this aspect of the job has ever bothered me. DH works full time, with a long commute (1.5 hours each way) but has weekends off and works from home regularly.
The job is Full time (37 hours) term time only. They have offered to match my current salary pro rata, which is a significant jump from the salary that was advertised.
I currently work 3 full days a week and my lovely Mum looks after my DD (age 2) for those three days (this was my Mum's idea, she loves having DD and is very keen to carry on looking after her for those 3 days) so we would need to put DD in childcare for those additional two days a week. My Mum has offered to have DD five days until she is eligible for her 30 free hours but I do not want to do this as I feel it would be taking advantage. On the positive side though, I would have school holidays off, which I imagine may be very glad of when she is older and there is not a cat in hell's chance of this ever happening in my current field.
A couple of people have commented that I might find it a "shock" working full time after having done 3 days and that it "seems a shame" to have to put DD in childcare when currently we have no childcare costs and she benefits from one to one care from family at home. This has left me wondering if it would be selfish/unfair on DD for me to take this job
I simply cannot carry on as I am and am worried that if I hold out for a job that allows me to earn the same money, for the same hours that I currently have as a specialist with several years experience in my field then I'll never find anything! Am I right in thinking there needs to be an element of compromise if you want to completely change careers?
Very interested to hear people's opinions on part time vs term time only and whether this seems like a good move. Any advice much appreciated.
Apologies for the essay by the way!
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yorkshapudding · 30/01/2016 07:42
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