Would you go for a new job knowing it was likely you might get pregnant soon?!

[Heatherbell1978]

Ok so there's a job advertised at my place of work - complete career change - I work in a bank and the job is project management. It's a perm post but there's a specific project that has to be delivered in 18 months from start of role. Job ticks all the boxes as its a great opportunity to move into the area I'd like to be longer term (but I'm happy where I am now) and I've been waiting for something like this to come up.

DS1 is 17 months and we're talking about number 2. It's still undecided but I'm 38 so this isn't something we can delay too much, (although I got pregnant very quickly with DS1).

If I get this job, I might get pregnant during the project if we decide to go for it. I'm a perm employee so 'technically' all fine but I'd feel shit about it.

What would you do?

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

If you work there already, do you know if it would actually take 18 months to deliver? Would it be possible, for example, to deliver 12 months after you start - so you could get pregnant after 4 months and go on maternity once the project was delivered?

If you have no additional insight, I think I'd go for it, but with the vague intention that you won't get pregnant right away. Not really for the employers benefit, but so that you can find your feet and establish yourself before you go, because it seems much harder afterwards! It's a personal choice though, neither option is wrong.

[RudeElf]

I always think you deal with whats infront of you. As it stands, a job exists and a pregnancy doesnt. Yes, a pregnancy might occur soon but then again it might take a year! The job is a limited time offer. Go for the job, deal with whatever else happens, when it happens. Good luck (on both counts!)

[MistressWeatherwax]

Do it.


Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And you just don't know how life might pan out so don't inhibit your options.

[Faye12345]

Im in the same situation. Take the job!

[AcrossthePond55]

Absolutely take the job. You don't know when you'll get pregnant for certain, do you? Why should you pass up a career opportunity on a 'maybe'?

[Shirkingfromhome]

Take it. I sincerely hope your second comes along as quickly as your first but it's not guaranteed. Don't put off one for the other! Good luck (with both)!