As the title suggests I absolutely detest my colleague which is not like me because I am quite easy going but she just makes me feel all tense and stabby.
Back story to this she used to be my line manager and completely shit upon me. Completely out of the blue ripped me apart at my annual review. Not a word of anything beforehand just laid in to me. I was having a really hard time with my dh who was long term sick and I also have a disabled child but was still coming to work everyday and putting a brave face on things even though I was under immense pressure. She made what was already a difficult time for me 100 times worse. I ended going off sick as a direct result of this incident. I then ended up being called in for a disciplinary meeting and threatened with getting a written warning which thankfully I didn't get but they will be keeping a close eye on me and if I take off sick again will likely get a warning. I have a completely blemish free career so getting a warning on my record was a big thing for me. I was advised that I could take things further and purse a grievance against her but I dropped everything. She has previous form and I know that she would have made my life a misery. I have seen her do it to 2 other people.
Anyway I came back to work and they had a change over of line management and she is no longer my line manager but she is still in my team. I am professional around her and will speak to her about work if I have to but there is no friendly chit chat or anything like that. I can't forget what she put me through. I came home after the incident in floods of tears as it was so vicious and completely unexpected. I kept replaying it over and over in my head. I can't say what she said exactly but it was completely unprofessional. I was bullied badly as a teenager and I thought now I am a grown woman but it just brought everything flooding back to me and I felt like I was 16 again.
Anyway now everything about her annoys me, her voice, the way she acts, the fact that were I am sitting I have to look at her. When she is not there I feel relaxed and can chat to other colleagues etc but when she is there I just completely clam up and feel tense and on edge around her. It is having an effect on me as I feel me hating her is having a draining effect on me. Eight hours a day is a long time to spend with someone you hate. I look forward to when she is not there. There are limited opportunities for movement so I feel like I am stuck. I need the job and I need the money it's just this one person who makes things difficult. Help?
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Stressmess · 12/08/2015 23:18
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