I am starting IVF treatment this week, days after leaving my last job. While both were planned, leaving work was supposed to happen after having found another role. Things happen for a reason and I feel much happier as situation at work was the worst of my life.
Now, while confident I will find a new role reasonably soon, I am already rehearsing possible conversations once presented with an offer; I want to remain positive and as stress-free as possible; indeed, I am single and will be a single mum providing all works out. So I am the only provider for my household.
Once an offer received, I am considering telling my future employer if pregnant (by a few days/weeks only if lucky) or currently trying, so I feel ethical and professional, but also so I can negotiate to benefit from their maternity policy...
I am eager to hear from any of you: what have you told? what were the consequences? what would you (not) recommend?
I think you would be foolish to tell your future employer that you are pregnant before you have even started.
Keep it to yourself, really.
Negotiate to benefit from their maternity policy? You would be entitled to maternity pay assuming you start early enough on in your pregnancy. But if you think that most employers will still be thrilled to employ you and will negotiate giving you maternity pay if they don't have too, well you would be quite naive.
I went for a job interview when I was 5 weeks pregnant. Chose not to say anything. A few days later I miscarried. Happily accepted the job the following week and then found out I was 6 weeks pregnant on my first day.
What is their maternity policy? What do you think you may be able to negotiate? Don't they have a policy that applies equally to all? I wouldn't say anything. Sign on the dotted line and then leave it a few weeks. In an ideal work they would hire you knowing you're trying or pregnant but in the real world...
Depends on the company. I employed a 3 months pregnant lady 18 months ago and we offered to pay her full maternity leave. She was the right person for the job, returned part time within a few months and is loyal in the extreme as she was grateful for the maternity pay.
A friend of mine learnt about her pregnancy while interviewing; She informed the company, not only they hired her, they increased her salary... this was the rational behind my question, and while indeed as mentioned by some above, this can appear naive, it is people like her company or you which still make me wonder and open trust a little. Thank you for sharing.
Wow Spindelina, well done! What was their reaction? How did they treat you?
It was a long recruitment process. I wasn't pregnant when I applied, 11 weeks at interview. They offered me the job, I asked for 0.8 FTE, they said yes (wasn't a deal breaker - I'd have done full time if they'd said no, which is why I left it until after they'd offered).
It's a very male-dominated academic department, so I think they didn't really know what to do with a woman, let alone a pregnant one! It's been fine, but I'm employed to do my own thing on my own timescale, which is pretty unusual. They took the money they saved from my mat leave plus the money they saved from me being 0.8 and employed someone else for a bit.
Organisations need to look at the bigger picture. If the pregnant lady is the right personn for the job and you pay her maternity leave, she'll most likely be super engaged and committed both before and after. Yes, you loose her for x months, but you'll retain her for x+ years
I'm nearly 7 weeks pregnant and currently applying for jobs. I'm not planning on saying anything in an interview (if I get one!) because if I didn't get the job I would always wonder whether it was because of my pregnancy or not. I will get maternity allowance and add that to my redundancy package from my current employer whenever they finally decide I can leave