I work for a large institution which employs over 5,000 staff who, on the face of it, in their marketing and comms, are proud of their commitment to Diversity and Equality which includes their family friendly policies.
In practice I have found, to my tears and frustration, that it is the most un-family friendly place I have ever worked in.
I am a single Mum to 2DDs (2 and 6). I split up with their dad 18 months ago. Work were initially helpful and I took advantage of their counselling service and was told to take time off if I needed.
Since my split I have run the gauntlet of getting my two DDs up and ready and out of the house and dropped off at childminder/grandparent 1/grandparent 2 (a round trip of 3/4 hour) and have struggled to arrive in work before 8am in any state approaching professional. When I've arrived 10 minutes late it has been remarked on.
I went to my manager recently with a request for flexi-time which the policy says is available to be asked for and which is established in some departments but not mine. I laid out the case for it but was told that our Dept Head was stringent about these issues and that core, set hours must be worked. I should say at this point that my job involves some evening work and travel across the country which often sees me returning home post 10am. I am not expected to claim back all of this time - on the basis that not all other staff do(i.e. those without dependants). Instead I was offered half an hour leeway on the two days when it is logistically impossible for me to be at my desk by 8, as long as I make the time up on other days. Not perfect but a bit of breathing space. I asked my manager what the business reasons were for refusing flexi-time and I wasn't given any. I was warned then by my manager not to take it any further as "it would do [you] more harm than good". Hmmm.
This week DD2 had tonsillitis. She slept in my bed on Sunday night - I say slept, neither of us did. She was burning up, coughing, asking for this that and the universe and at about 5am I decided I'd be better off staying home. The policy says we have paid dependants' emergency leave and on 3 separate occasions in the past calendar year I've had to take a day off to mind one of my girls. ExOH doesn't look after them at all, but that's a different kettle of crap. I was told today that our Head of Dept has negotiated with HR that only one day a year can be taken as paid leave for these occasions and that I'd have to take Monday as unpaid or annual leave.
I am a hard worker, I haven't had a day off sick in the past year and am performing well in all aspects of my job. I just feel like I'm causing trouble trying to access the support that my employer says is there for me. What should I do?
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kissitbetter2 · 22/01/2015 16:06
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