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Back to work after mat leave and its intolerable. Is it rash to hand notice in?

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fishfingersandwiches Sun 02-Nov-14 07:46:16

I started full time a couple of weeks ago (part time request was not accepted), I have a new boss who is a demanding and unpleasant and the workload is ridiculous. My last boss was lovely so makes it hard.
I can't stay late, ever, as have to pick up ds from nursery so things often get left incomplete no matter how hard I try. I also miss my ds, and not seeing him 5 days a week is hard for me.
Have a horrible inkling that things are going to go pear shaped.

I really want to leave!
I am seriously thinking of handing my notice in. Just the thought of it makes me feel much happier.
I would love to find a local part time job and work for myself around ds, and work towards fulfilling my dream of starting a business.
Right now I don't even have time to work towards any of this as so swamped with work problems/commute/ds etc.

Wondered if anyone else had a similar experience and left their job so soon after returning?

MummyCoolski Sun 02-Nov-14 07:57:57

Can you manage if you were out of work for a while? Do you have a partner who is earning and can cover the bills for a while? Do you work in a profession that can convert to self-employment easily?

If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, I would say "go for it". I went self-employed after a short stint back after maternity leave and a year on, the whole family is much happier. However, I have a supportive husband who earns enough that we could manage whilst I was finding clients. I also work in an industry made up of a combination of employed and freelance professionals, so the path was very clear to me.

ismellonehugerat Sun 02-Nov-14 08:05:59

If you can afford to give up then just do it.

But...

If you want a part time job or to work for yourself jump back in the saddle straight away. The longer you are at home the harder you will find it. It is very difficult to be motivated the longer you are at home/out of the work loop. Voice of experience here...

AuntieStella Sun 02-Nov-14 08:06:11

I would say it is rash.

It's been two weeks. It's a big change, you're probably tired and out of practice in the workplace.

It's fine to start looking for part time work now, an move when you secure a new position. Or to decide you're stepping out of the workforce for a while. But it's often surprisingly difficult to deal with quitting in haste and trying to keep a work life going.

When deciding if you are gong to step away from working, do your sums. In addition to how your immediate budget works, cost up things like what it mean for you in the long run (especially if you do not have the legal protections of marriage).

AlpacaYourThings Sun 02-Nov-14 08:07:58

My advice would be to find a part time role first and then leave.

amyhamster Sun 02-Nov-14 08:09:17

Is your partner supportive ?

I would try to find a part time job while still working

It's so much harder to find a job when you're unemployed

I'd also speak to your boss & say you're considering leaving & maybe she will change her mind about letting you reduce your hours

What field of work are you in op ?

peggyundercrackers Sun 02-Nov-14 08:16:46

sounds like your making a rash decision... if you want to start a business what preparation have you done? do you know what you want to do? do you have a business plan? any market research?

maggiethemagpie Sun 02-Nov-14 21:31:55

When I returned to work after my first child, and was only four days per week, I started planning to get pregnant again asap I hated it so much! Had to then put that on hold for a while for medical reasons, which was just as well as I settled back in, then started looking for another job and found one within a few months. I was very tempted to just leave at times, but glad I stuck it out.

You could just leave but how secure are you financially? Are you ready to give up on your career and downsize a little?

Wouldn't advise telling your boss you are considering leaving to get your hours changed....most bosses do not like pressure of this sort. If they need someone to do the job full time, they will just let you go and re recruit.

fishfingersandwiches Sun 02-Nov-14 22:06:14

Thanks for your replies everyone smile
I have been applying to part time/flexi jobs today so feel as if at least I am making some steps in the right direction.
I work in a corporate pa/admin role so hoping it won't be hard for me to find something else.
I'm also not a career person as such so not fussed about stepping off the 'ladder' really - not that I was on it really but I am doing quite well in the field that I am in I suppose. It is PURELY for the money. The only thing I really would love to do is work for myself!
I have also been doing a bit of direct selling for a company which I really love and would be brilliant to have the time to build on that some more. I like the idea of having my finger in various pies, getting immersed in a project, and having the flexibility to work around my ds. And not be a slave to the corporate world which I am now.
Financially, yes, it could be dodgy and maybe I have my head in the clouds but sometimes I feel like saying 'what the hell'. I have this strange belief that it will all work out ok and I get frustrated that my current job is literally sucking the life out of me and taking up ALL my time that I wish I had to be spending doing other things instead..

MummyCoolski Mon 03-Nov-14 13:37:13

Have you had a look at setting-up as a virtual PA?

fishfingersandwiches Mon 03-Nov-14 14:13:50

No I haven't actually, how does that work? Is it easy to find work?

MummyCoolski Tue 04-Nov-14 11:20:38

I don't know really (it isn't what I do), but I know of them. Worth a google!

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