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Is it worth raising a grievance if I'm leaving?

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FallenFlower Thu 13-Feb-14 21:24:06

I handed my notice in a while ago. I'm on gardening leave until it expires.

Basically, my manager bullied and discriminated against me for three months, and I couldn't cope with it anymore.

I did not give a reason for leaving. I've now found out that work have told all of my colleagues that I am leaving due to being too depressed to carry on, and needing time to myself.

I do have a form of depression, but it is not related to this, particularly. It was stable until the discriminating started. It is not the reason that I am leaving.

Is it worth me sending an account of everything that has happened and raising a grievance if I'm leaving imminently?

I'm upset because I didn't want everyone at the company to know.

PuppyMonkey Thu 13-Feb-14 21:28:55

I'm no expert but is this not constructive dismissal? Someone will be along who knows better I'm sure. Sorry about your job...

yummystepford Thu 13-Feb-14 21:32:35

shock Definitely raise it, I'm not sure who, maybe an employment solicitor! That is not on! It's another way of trying to bully you

FallenFlower Fri 14-Feb-14 08:21:12

I'm not sure I could afford a solicitor again...

I guess I need to put something in writing and send it to HR. Nervous!

Preciousbane Fri 14-Feb-14 08:25:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Reallynotsuretbh Fri 14-Feb-14 08:25:46

100% worth doing not only for yourself but also in case they do it to someone else in the future. I can understand how hard it must feel to start this but honestly its the right thing to do

addictedtosugar Fri 14-Feb-14 08:39:50

Please let them know why you are leaving.
It might be the piece of the jigsaw that means the manager gets dealt with, and then then your relplacement doesn't go through the same torture.

Hope your OK.

Jess03 Fri 14-Feb-14 08:55:28

I would be outraged that they've told your personal information to other workers, really really unprofessional of them to talk about your depression, that could bite you in future job interviews if someone knows someone (although unlikely). They owe of an apology and correction for that. Your call about the manager, you are leaving and the mh misinformation is what id address first.

yummumto3girls Fri 14-Feb-14 09:49:07

Please raise a grievance and get this out in the open and dealt with. If you don't it may jeopardise your chances of bringing a claim in an employment tribunal in the future. Sounds like you might have a good case.

CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 14-Feb-14 10:28:44

I've asked a colleague to send me a copy of the grievance procedure. I've never done this before!

I'll call ACAS shortly, too.

I was really trying not to burn bridges, but this has really upset me.

Elletorro Sun 16-Feb-14 10:42:09

Be prepared for work to defend themselves. They will be worried about a claim.

Think about what you want to walk away with. If you don't want to take it further then I would be negotiating with them. Use the threat of a claim/ formal grievance ( and the hours of ensuing investigation and reports) to leverage a good reference, you draft it they put it on headed paper on your file and do not deviate from it. ensure the lies stop now.

My suggestion is to safeguard your career and walk away. You are angry and upset right now. Try and think objectively about what you want.

CajaDeLaMemoria Sun 16-Feb-14 11:35:25

Thanks for your thoughts, Elletorro.

I don't need a reference from them. I was all ready to move on and get on with my new job.

I'm pretty upset that they've not only lied about why I'm leaving but revealed a personal medical issue, though.

Elletorro Sun 16-Feb-14 12:03:44

If you are not up for a claim then possibly you could take a look at the the information commissioner's website. They are mishandling your personal data.

What do you want from them?

FadBook Tue 18-Feb-14 07:36:58

I agree with Elletorro - what do you want it get out if raising a grievance? A grievance is a long process and you may not get answers straight away. It may also find things that incriminate you (a full investigation may draw conclusions of 6 of one / half a dozen of the other - I'm not saying you have done anything wrong but I have been involved in grievances whereby the person raising the grievance has behaved inappropriately and the grievance manager homes in on that point).

I would be inclined to raise a grievance if one or more apply:

- you wish for person who discriminated you to be accountable for her/his actions

- if you wish to return to your job and retract your resignation

- if you wish to take the matter externally (employment tribunal) for constructive dismissal and any discrimination based on characteristics such as sex, religion, disability, race or age.

Your other option is that you submit a letter clearing explaining your reasons for resignation and wish for a full investigation to take place as to why your boss has revealed personal incorrect information. They may investigate or they may just file it away - send it to HR.

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