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So what would you do if your boss....

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alligator Wed 24-May-06 12:33:20

used the words spastic and retard when having a rant.

Senario is boss is ranting about 'stupid' rules and regs and someone who gave out to him about them not being observed and I told him 'Tough thems the rules and to live with it and quit whingin' (or words to that effect) which was all fine and dandy and normal banter.
But them he starts on that people need to take responsibility themselves and if they must be retards and spastics if they cant.

So did I give him a rational argument about why the words were offensive and imo akin to racism etc etc???? No I yelled that he was rude, nasty and offensive and didnt see why little kids like my cousin should be talked about in such a horrible way and then I burst into tears. He apologised for upsetting me but am really pissed off that I couldnt hold a bloody contructive argument about it. Am so pissed off with myself

Jessajam Wed 24-May-06 12:36:55

Actually your emotional outburst has probably had more effect that a rational argument - now he will be worried you will accuse him of upsetting you... and he should feel personally guilty rather than just professionally...(Is he 'young enough to know better'? ( IYKWIM - sometimes some people are just used to using those words - grew up when there was still a Spastic Society etc)
PS am risk manager and gawd I hate the "people have responsibility for their own actions line...is usually such a cop out!)

MrsBigD Wed 24-May-06 12:39:26

spastic? omg that's lingo we used when we were teenagers not in a work environment!

Not sure what your circumstances are but if it upset you that much and he actually apologised for it then don't be pissed off with yourself.

alligator Wed 24-May-06 12:54:22

thanks thats cheered me up a bit. He is young in fact very young and IMO SHOULD know better esp as he has heard me on the subject before. I can actually argue rationally sometimes. Feel a bit better now. Maybe my emothional responce will ahve more of an impact. Never thought of it that way before.

southeastastra Wed 24-May-06 13:02:43

Is he David Brent?

alligator Wed 24-May-06 13:28:59

Quite possibly SE Now that thougth really has cheered me up.

Iklboo Wed 24-May-06 13:32:13

Bloke here at work uses m*ng about 20 times a day. I only started in this job last week, but I@m waiting for my manager to come back of his hols so I can complain. yesterday he spent about 10 minutes explaining to an Asian colleague why it was funny to say it

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