Background - worked here 11.5 years, in current team for the last 9 months. T/L and other memebrs of team are very good friends, and boss is friends with them all too. I face 2 of them, we all sit beside T/L and boss sits behind me.
I've not been happy about sitting here since I moved 9 mths ago, but had no real reason to use as an excuse to move. The 2 'colleagues' who sit across from me talk constantly with each other, with T/L and the boss. There are frequent occasions when the chat gets quite, whispers and mumbles etc. which is something I find extremely rude, and makes me feel very uncomfortable. I have never had any proof that I was being talked about, but none the less, it isn't pleasant being made to feel awkward whan I have no choice but to sit here, and cannot get away from the 'private' chats.
This morning, T/L sent me an email, then immediately said it was sent by mistake and I should delete it. I have to click on the email to delete it, and the content shows up in full on the screen. The email was about me. It had started from a converstation bitching sessions between T/L and colleague 1 (not on email). T/L emailed colleague colleague 2, asking about subject of conversation, when colleague 2 proceeded to slag me off in the email. I've no idea who T/L intended to send the email to, instead of me, but it's clear from the email I am the subject of gossip bitching between colleagues, with the involvement and approval of my T/L.
I don't know how to deal with this. Boss, who I would normally consider going to, I don't feel confident in speaking to as I doubt it would be kept confidential and I don't want to make this situation ten times worse.
Can anyone give me some helpful advice on what to do? Ideally, I'd like to move teams, or at least get a move away from this toxic corner as I think I'd feel a lot better not being in ear shot of the bitching that's going on, knowing that it actually is about me mabye not all, but enough. I need to be smar tabout this so I have done nothing so far. I feel like utter crap knowing that all the mumbling and whispers were in all likelihood bitching about me and no doubt many other. It feels like bullying IYSWIM?
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bananaistheanswer · 14/11/2012 18:39
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