Over critical and bearing colleague - help!(3 Posts)
Received an email today from a colleague, sort of middle management. Officious, critical, unjust - actually plain rude. Not the first time. This person contrives through her pettiness and nastiness to make things at times quite intolerable. Above all, her petty criticisms make me angry, upset, confused- all at once.
The latest is around getting students signed up to exams (we both work part time in adult education) - she's claiming that I've made a shed load of admin mistakes with the registration. It's not true at all - I work very hard and if I make occasional mistakes, which no doubt I do, they are not for want of trying. I get stuck in - take a full part in the life of our department.
She has made some very serious blunders herself ie enrolling students who are not eligible for our courses. She isn't popular with admin and other teaching colleagues because she is so over bearing.
But right now, I am very unhappy. I'd like to tell her that or at least that I won't be accused of doing things badly when I have given, in my own time, of my best. Yes, I fall short - of course. But a decent colleague would pick up the phone - not email and copy it to all and sundry - and say "Do you want a helping hand/How's it going?' etc.
Should I let this go - again? Should I stand up to her? Of course, at the back of my mind is my ultimate boss - would making a stand impact on references etc because this middle management person is a proper telling of tales.
At times like this, I just wish that my mum was here to chat to, advise, and tell me, as she so often did, that 'It's her problem'.
Sorry guys - just feeling got at (again) and low. Thanks for listening.
Is she senior to you? Is it her job to line manage you? If so you may have to suck up the tone... but also she has to bear some responsibility it you have nade mistakes because she should be training you to understand enrolment, perhaps?
If not your senior, I'd be tempted to go to your senior and complain about this negative, critical colleague who thinks such emails are helpful.
Bottom line - do you know if you have actually made mistakes? If not can you find out?
Chin up, there are always twats around but you don't have to take any notice of them. It's her problem... you sound very together and able.
I'm assuming you can disprove her claim about the shed loads of mistakes? In which case I'd gather my evidence and then detail it all in an email to her - copied to your actual boss.
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