Need a rant - DH's work.

[JingleJulezbooBells]

We currently have 8/9 inches of snow, live in a valley so only one road in and out. 6 inches of that has fallen in the last 2 hours. DH spent an hour clearing the car this morning and left an hour early to get to work. He made the effort.

I am 31+4 weeks pregnant, waters leaked with DS2 from 30 weeks, ds1 was born at 31+4.

They have told them all if they need to leave early they can, but will los pay, fair enough. But then the big boss, who incidentially lives across the road from teh office has said anyone going home early will have a "black mark" against their name.

I hate the place. I used to work there until i was slying made redundant and last year they sent me out in the heavy snow to collect people from home (an hour away from office)

They are arses. DH is of course sitting at work worrying now because I am home alone with two boys, but also worrying about his job :(

[JingleJulezbooBells]

slying slyly

[Bramshott]

They sound like arses, but I think your DH needs to stay in work.

I imagine that you are worrying because this is exactly the time when DS1 was born (DD1 was a premmie, and I remember that feeling), but it is actually fairly unlikely that the same thing will happen again. And if something does happen, you need an ambulance or a midwife in a 4x4 more than you need your DH.

I suppose what I am trying (clumsily!) to say, is that of course you are worried, but you're not actually in labour now are you? So given that he will lose pay if he leaves, your DH should stay where he is.

[rookiemater]

That does seem very bad. Our work have been pretty understanding about the snow and for those of us who did manage to make it in they made us leave early so we weren't stuck for getting home.

They are being arses which is exactly the right name for them, but there is no point worrying about it until it actually happens. Good luck for the birth.

[hairyfairylights]

hmmm. Are the roads unsafe where you are? If so then they are being unreasonable, if not they are being entirely reasonable.

Our policy is that if it is safe to do so, people are expected to attend. by car, by bus, or walking (if those options are practical). We often get people who do not make the effort, when we know they could have got the bus.

today I shut the office at 9.30 as the roads were unsafe and I didn't want anyone to travel in these conditions, and I felt that it would possibly be even worse for people trying to get home.

Today I dove as far as I could safely drive to attempt to get in.
Last year I walked half a mile to get the bus, but was unable to get in as buses weren't running.

[LadyLapsang]

Try not to worry. If you go into labour call for an ambulance & let DH make decisions regarding his work on the basis of travel safety.

How many miles away is his work & is it en route to your maternity unit?

[violethill]

Agree with LadyLapsang.

separate the two issues in your mind - your pregnancy and the weather/work situation. If necessary, call an ambulance for yourself.

If the roads are open, then its reasonable to expect people to travel in, and it sounds like he's being very sensible by allowing himself extra time.

The boss sounds a bit of a knob talking about 'black marks', but it's not unreasonable for the employer to want to make a point, otherwise you'll just have some people taking the piss. My commute took me two hours each way last week (normally 45 mins) - it was interesting to see who turned up in work! Most people did, but there were some interesting no-shows, in one case, from someone who lived about 10 miles nearer than me, in a village I drove through on my way in!

Let your DH get on with his job, and try not to worry