I'm sure this is a really common scenario, sometimes my boss is so subtle, it's only when I get home and relate a conversation that things she has said seem not quite right!
The back story is I returned from my second year of maternity leave ten months ago, 15 months after the first year off ended, and a new line manager started shortly after I got back. I'd never really had a line manager before, and was just allowed to manage my small team without too much interference. My boss can't have children, and has said she finds it very painful, which I'm sure it is ; I'm not sure how much this influences her attitude. I hope it doesn't but I might be being naive.
Anyway, I have two boys, 4 and 20 months, and I work 40 hours a week over 4 days sometimes more, depending. I don't think anyone could question the commitment I show to my job and the organisation, and I have a really low rate of absence due to sickness (mine or theirs) relying on DH and MIL, so I can be seen to be doing a good job.
This is getting long isn't it? Anyway, the hours are too much and the nursery fees so high that, along with a lot of other women in a certain career bracket, I end up with the same amount in my pocket as if I worked two days and paid for no childcare, taking into account the cost of the commute as well. So I'd like to reduce my hours to 20 a week, and keep my level of responsibility (and salary, obv) and share the role with a junior who is showing promise (and actually getting twitchy without a challenge). When I chatted this over with my boss informally, she said maybe I had to think about whether I wanted to have a career or a job, and maybe it was time to start selling Tupperware, or working in the curtain department of John Lewis.
I'm not sure where I stand. Obviously there's the right to ask for flexible working, and I'm determined to reduce my hours to something more family-friendly, but I'd rather it wasn't at the expense of my job!
Does anyone else find themselves in this position, and where do we stand legally? And what do you do about a boss who acts like she is a friend, but really doesn't believe I should be able to 'have it all'?
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Is my boss gently persuading me to leave?
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Stase · 15/11/2010 21:55
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