I hate my job

[linconlass]

I really hate my job.cant afford to leave it - wd lose house.Any tips on re framing a job you hate and coping? have had to go off with stress at mo.The main problem is dealing with difficult people i get so worried and i mightas well be at work all the time as i worry at home bout next day !! - have tried assertiveness training -not really helped - im a wuss !! not really just hate hate confrontation.....any advice appriciated - thanks............

[scurryfunge]

Try and get on a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy course. You can via your GP or maybe your own Occupational Health department. It helps you change the way you think about things.

[MistyB]

Speak to your manager and ask them for support / mentoring etc.

Take time out at the end of the day to write down everything you need to do the next day / would otherwise think about. Take time to write what strategies you need to cope with each situation. Try to "leave them at work".

Before you have a confrontation, set out what you need to achieve, what you want to get across, what you are willing to give up, what could happen if you "fail" and what you would do about it.

See how you did against your plan after each one. Get in, get your point across and get out.

If you need to get out of a difficult situation quickly, at the start of the discussion say that you are due somewhere, need to make a phone call etc in say 5 minutes, and then when time is up, politely say that you are sorry but will need to take this up at another time.

When at home, keep a notebook so you can write down what you are worried about and what your plan is, even if it is, ignore! Then try to "shelve" the issue.

Remember it is "just" a job and the world is unlikely to stop if you don't do a perfect job every day!

[ramyr]

Hi lincolnlass

I really feel for you having been in this situation myself

Does your company have an employee assistance program? (EAP) I managed to get six sessions of counselling through the one at my previous job (independent counsellor, nothing to do with the company) She told me to look for a new job - not sure that's what the company had in mind when they provided that benefit

Two years on - I have moved on and only now realsie the full extent of how much that job affected me and my life outside work. The new job isn't perfect but it's so much better - life is too short to stay somewhere you're miserable

[linconlass]

Thanks everyone - i will try the things suggested.x