My mum moved to France 11 years ago. She's now 75. At first she loved it but recently not so much.
Over the last year her social life has dwindled and she never really sees anyone any more. She says she's lonely but never makes any effort to meet up with people.
She came to stay with me over the summer and it was...difficult. She told me her mental health is very poor and if it wasn't for the boys (my DCs she'd kill herself). I managed to get her to go to a GP while she was here but they were next to useless.
To make matters worse her dog had to be put to sleep last week so she went home without him. I did say she could stay with me longer if she didn't want to go home but she insisted she was ready to go home.
She usually rings me every day but I haven't heard from her since she went back apart from one e-mail saying she was too upset to talk.
I've spoken to my brother tonight and she's been messaging him saying she's full of despair and it's only the thought of how it would affect the boys that's stopping her kill herself.
I don't know what to do. I do feel incredibly frustrated because she won't do anything to help herself. I have MH issues so I do understand how hard it is when you're depressed but I also know that nobody else can make it better, she has to help herself too.
She's spent all her adult life getting into scrapes and my brother and I have rescued her and I just don't think I can do it any more.
I think she wants to come back to the UK and is hoping either my brother or I sort out somewhere for her to live. She won't do anything to help. And she's terrible with money so my brother will end up bankrolling her (I'm a permanently skint single mother on a near minimum wage part time job).
Sorry, I'm rambling but I just feel at my wits end here. I can't just pack up and go to France to check she's ok. I don't know what to do.
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Mum in France saying she feels suicidal
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MyGhastIsFlabbered · 28/09/2019 19:50
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