I've written about my Mum's care before. I just checked it was over 5 years ago!!www.mumsnet.com/Talk/elderly_parents/1960118-Stuff-going-missing-in-carehome?pg=2
We kept her in the home. Her money ran out ages ago. My sister has been dealing with it all in the main as I am still in another country, over 300 miles away. There have been ups and downs and of course she's grown older. She's now 92, doubly incontinent, blind (a 'new' discovery), frail and has dementia. She sleeps a lot and can be totally unresponsive when you visit or have the very occasional moment when she sings and talks about Dad as if he is still around but these are rare and never happen when I visit.
Upshot is she got admitted to hospital with high blood sugar and dehydration (she's Type 2). We thought it was her time to go as she was unresponsive too. She's now been in hospital for a week and has improved remarkably with some great nursing care. For one moment I thought they might put her on the Liverpool Care Path but they are treating her and she is having fluids and nutrition. She's responsive in the sense she acknowledges that she knows there are visitors but it's been a long time now since she enjoyed anything like music, audio books, sitting in the garden etc.
We wondered whether she hadn't been given enough fluids at the home or had been neglected. The home has been a bit hit and miss - some lovely staff and my Mum is longest serving resident and isn't as bad in terms of her dementia as most of the other residents. It's had a change of management a couple of times; a few tart ups in terms of decor and increased activities. My sister has complained to the Care Commission a few times about things that have happened and issues.
This week their report came out on the home (after an unannounced visit last Summer). For every area it has received an 'Inadequate' rating. They visited EIGHT months ago and have sat on that news.
We don't want her going back there.
She has only recently started qualifying for 'nursing' care. So now we are trying to find somewhere that will take her. I suppose I am asking on here for advice or to just share experience. We are basically looking to send her somewhere that will nurse her kindly and look after her till she reaches the end of her life. We don't want her put in a room and left to die. We want her medication to be administered, people to talk to her, care for her...
What are our chances of finding anywhere that will take her? We don't have funds to pay for private care. It'll be down to the council ( a very large city in England). Will we realistically have much choice in the matter? Other than refusing to let her go back to her existing home?
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Mum's care home deemed 'Inadequate' on ALL fronts by CQC
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statinisland · 23/04/2019 09:03
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