I live hundreds of miles away from my parents and am an only child. Mum is ten years older than dad at 90, and her health isn't great, so dad is her carer. He has been struggling to cope for some time and needs regular help, but mum is refusing (she has always been stubborn).
Anyway, I've been down for the weekend to help out and to try and talk mum into accepting help, but she's throwing a massive tantrum and refusing to even discuss the idea. Dad is a wreck, and I just don't know which way to turn. She's always been quite domineering and I just can't get through to her that she will finish dad off if she doesn't let him have some support.
Moving closer isn't an option due to mine and DH's work commitments/kids in school (mum and dad had planned years ago to move closer to us but decided against it, now they've had the house adapted to cope with mum's needs it would be too much of an upheaval) so I just don't know what the answer is. Any thoughts?
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blossomtrail · 01/04/2019 00:06
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