Hello all, I’ve just realised this topic is here so would like to hear you collective wisdom.
My elderly parents still live in the family home. DM is 80, DF is 87. Both have their faculties but DF is frail after a couple of strokes. DF can manage his own personal care and toileting, DM does everything else and looks after the house and garden.
DF falls occasionally and cannot get back up, and DM can’t lift him. They end up calling on their neighbours to lift DF, which is kind of them but I don’t think it’s fair and am worried the neighbours will hurt themselves. I’ve told DM they need to call 999 as they have done in the past when the paramedics got DF up, checked blood pressure and made sure he was ok and said they were absolutely right to call them out. However, my parents now won’t call for an ambulance as they say it takes too long to get to them (over an hour), which is why they ask neighbours, sometimes in the night. Understandably 999 service have to prioritise emergency call outs. I think DF is also worried about being taken in to hospital again and can get extremely stubborn in stress situations and DM panics/flaps. They’re lovely normally and DF behaves for me when I get a bit bossy with him, but my sibling and I both live several hours away so we are no immediate help.
My sibling and I would be more than happy to pay for a private call out service. I’ve looked up ageuk and saga but it seems they provide a service that then calls out either a nominated contact or an ambulance.
Is there such a thing as a private call out service that come out to you in such a situation? Does anyone have any other suggestions?
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funnelfanjo · 28/02/2019 16:48
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