DM is only 67. She has poor physical health and is in and out of doctors, hospitals etc. I understand that this is frustrating for her, as is her reduced mobility, however she has an inflated sense of entitlement and disregard for others. Yesterday she had an appt and requires another hospital visit. Instead of waiting for paperwork, she went home and then told me that I had to pick it up for her today. Same with the hospital stay, I was told I'd have 'another early morning' as I need to get her there by 6.30am.
I know she's not able to drive atm but she never asks if I can help, I'm just told what I have to do, and she never asks if anything fits in with whatever plans DH, DC or I might have. I'm happy to help but I need a bit of notice and would prefer to be asked nicely rather than told.
She needed shopping done so I asked for her list and told her I'd order it online for her and they would deliver to her kitchen bench, but she wasn't happy with that, she wanted me to go and get it for her. She asked another day if I was going to a certain shopping centre soon and I said no. She then told me they had a sale on for something she wanted so I needed to go there.
Many times I've pulled her up on her manner (the current issues are just one of many), but she ignores me or accuses me of being unreasonable. Apparently her lack of saying 'please' or 'thank you' doesn't make her rude! I wouldn't tolerate this behaviour from DC so I don't know why she expects me to tolerate it from her.
I just had a call from her about going to pick up her paperwork. I said I'd go now as I'm free now (late morning, Australia), but it's not ready yet. Instead I have to go after lunch. I said 'fine, it's not like I have anything else to do' and hung up on her. I know that was childish but I'm tired of it. To others she comes across as nice and happy but with me she's just a bossy b.tch.
I get no joy from visiting her. As soon as I arrive at her house I'm told what jobs she needs done. Again, I'm happy to help people in need, but I'd appreciate a 'please'. She just doesn't get it, and since she's only 67 I've probably got another 10, 20, 30 yrs of it! Give me strength!!
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everydaymum · 29/11/2018 00:52
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