DM lives be herself in a bungalow around 4 hrs drive from me. I'm an only child. I need to be here for work, school etc.
DM is very happy and settled where she lives. She's 69 and has some medical issues but nothing that keeps her from doing her weekly line dancing!
I've suggested she put her name down on our local authority housing list now. And not to wait until she has to move. Realistically, I could take 10+ years to be offered a suitable housing associated flat or bungalow and there is no harm in putting her name down.
I suggested she could live closer to me so that I can offer more support. Rent out her bungalow and get enough income to pay her own rent here and have a little extra income on top of her pension.
She doesn't want to even consider it and thinks it's a stupid idea. So we argued and I said she would end up in a care home and loose all of her house value in the process. I won't be able to offer any support and she'd be in a home sooner and for longer if she stays put.
I feel bad about the argument, but am I being unreasonable? It's not like I'm asking her to sign her house over to me and dodge care home fees. I just want her in a position to move closer to me so that I can support her. What do you think? Any other solutions?
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shoelaces · 26/08/2018 12:29
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