For the last 6 months my parents have been supported at home by. 24 hour live in care (day carer, night carer, and drop in to. Cover day carers breaks). Cost approx &3,000 per week.
DM has fairly. Advanced dementia but her mobility is good, dad has poorly mobility and vascular dementia which is advancing rapidly. Cost is due to there needing to be waking mights due to my parents both requiring a lot of attention overnight, and as this has pretty much equated to 2 placements I a decent care home has been fine.
My problem is that due to my dad deteriorating as he has it's not really safe for him as he keeps trying to get out of his chair but can't stand and the carer can't be in two places at once. Additionally if he is going to need lifting this will require 2 carers and the cost of this is not sustainable long term. Mom is fairly healthy apart from the dementia and her care may need to be funded long term. Whisky my parents have savings - I have none and need to be considering my own retirement (50s) so me paying any top up is not an option.
So Sadly it looks as if we need to be considering a move to residential / nursing home. My dad is currently in hospital and didn't acknowledge me yesterday so I don't know immediate outcome for my dad but ultimately I know I'll need to be investigating homes.
I've been on CQC website and searched those with 'good rating' in my area, looked at a couple of websites. But - what do I need to be asking and looking for in conversations and visits? I'm terrified of getting this wrong.
Example I looked at one on the internet , thought it looked lovely, although likely to be pricey, but then noticed another thread where this company was slated. But equally how much is down to the company that owns the homes and how much the individual staff? Another company that runs a few homes in my area, some have good rating, some not. I am at least relieved to see a couple if homes where my friend has worked and would not recommend to me have both got required improvement on CQC.
Any advice appreciated. Thanks
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Applepudding2018 · 22/06/2018 13:37
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