I know this seems really odd, but don’t flame me. My dad is terminally ill, I am doing all I can to help and support him, toilet trips,showers, whatever is needed, and I will carry on doing that to keep him at home as long as he wants that. I love him to bits.
I just can’t bear to even think about actually going to his funeral though. I’m a very private person and I know I will be distraught . I know it sounds self centred but I really don’t know if I can face it. Am spending nights silently crying in bed just at the thought of it. I know part of that is just that it will mark the end but part of that is the funeral itself.the whole concept just seems so maudlin if you are not religious which neither of us are.
My mum on the other hand is writing down song choices and planning food ! We are all different !
Seems such a taboo not to go and I know my dad knows how much I love him , my mum would have other support.
I know this is crazy and I have to go , any coping strategies ?
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Nearlyoldenoughtowearpurple · 17/06/2018 19:30
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