My mom passed away recently.I have cared for her my whole life. I loved her but she was violent( when I was a child)difficult and demanding. Very physically disabled, many complex health issues and finally dementia that made her difficult personality much worse.
But I cared for her and managed to keep her in her own home except for the last 5 weeks of her life when her sheltered housing refused to have her back so she went to a nursing home.(she hated it and just screamed and shouted the whole time she was there.)
She was neglected in the nursing home and I was very vocal about it. I reported it to relevant authorities and I was told it would be investigated as a matter of urgency.
She was admitted to hospital 5 weeks after moving to nursing home and I told everyone concerned that she would not be returning to nursing home but she passed away. I believe the neglectful care contributed to her death and told every proffessional I thought this. I also informed the local authority who paid for all her are fees.
Despite asking for information regarding my reported safeguarding concerns no one has got back to me. I rang local authority yesterday and they basically have are record of one phone call and that's it. That couldn't even tell Me if it had been investigated.
I should add caring for mom has nearly broken me,both physically and mentally.
I'm outraged and heart broken but I don't think I can fight this battle.i cried all day yesterday after the phone call and could feel the anxiety rise again. They safeguarding team promised to phone me back yesterday but didn't and I know from previous experiences it will be dealt with incompetently.
But, i feel immense guilt at not demanding it be investigated further.
But, I've been fighting and caring for over 40 years and I'm tired and have only just gained my freedom from caring for a abusive difficult parent.
Is there any point fighting this battle that I already know I will lose.
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user1471456416 · 21/02/2018 07:55
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