Hello mumsnet
Would it be possible if I might ask for community insight with an on-going family situation that I have endured for >25 years now, which has due to recurrent health issues with my mother become untenable.
Regrettably since my father became aware of my initial situation, gay male in long standing relationship and in the way he found out – via the mail on Sunday 25 years ago, both my husband and I have not been permitted to set foot on the property attributed to the family home. No amount of requests to talk from me or from other family members to try to reach some kind of accord have realised anything.
Recently for the second time my mother has been taken seriously ill and was rushed into Royal Hospital under Blues and Two’s. He will not in any way communicate with me. I had to find out mother was ill by 3rd parties. Yesterday, after a week in Hospital, she was discharged home under strict orders for light duties, with a suggested care package.
I have enduring power of attorney from my mother and my mother has made a will. She is unaware if my father has made any provision.
I have concerns for my mothers on-going health and mental wellbeing and as she is now 82 I need to be able to visit her and ensure that what needs to be done at the family home is done. For that I need to be able to access the property.
My father maintains that he will not allow my partner or me over the threshold. I would like to ask for suggestions on how to handle this situation as it is now beyond me.
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Thanks in advance
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topbiker · 19/01/2018 16:00
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