Thank you ssd for starting what for me has been a very helpful resource. I come here often to read, less often to post but I am still at an early stage in my journey. Sorry that your mum is no longer with you .
This thread was a life saver for me. So much advice and friendship when you feel so alone. Something struck me very early on and has stayed with me ever since. I was moaning about parents who whine and complain then refuse any help. The advice was “Don’t try to fix the unfixable”. Learn to say, “There is nothing I can do about that”