Mum's in her 70s and a full time carer for my dad. She's had a rough year (aren't they all as a carer, but this one's been a real toughie). She's absolutely exhausted. Her birthday's coming up and I'd like to get her something great but it's hard. She rarely has a chance to go out, she's lost the energy for her hobbies. I'd like to get something that feels like a luxury and that requires no effort on her part. Time off is the gift she really needs and I try to offer that as much as possible but she's very reluctant to let go of her responsibilities, even for short periods
Does she have a radio/music system? Could you get her a digital or internet radio if it will work and she hasn’t one because there is a wider range of stations. Depending on how she listens could you put together a playlist or burn a CD of favourite songs. If she is mostly with your father could you include some they both like?
Massage s a lovely idea. I've done it a few times before so was thinking something different would be nice. But perhaps if its what she needs it would be appreciated all the same. A robot hoover would be amazing! But yeah, maybe a bit out of my price range. Will go investigate though...
Could you arrange for someone else to come and care for your dad for the day and the two of you have a lovely girly spa day? She may feel a little happier to leave her responsibilities if she knows our dad will be taken care of and she has someone to go with. Alternatively, how about an afternoon cream tea? If she really feels that she can't go out for a few hours how about you buy all the stuff for afternoon tea, finger sandwiches, scones, clotted cream, jam, little cakes and throw her a tea party at home. You could book someone to come round to the house and do a home spa for the afernoon too.