I am at my wits end and wonder if anyone might have advice for us, I’ll try and be brief
My dad died in November, he had been ill for a while and latterly was in a lovely care home.
My mum is fairly healthy but seems to be confused she is in Scotland, my sibling is in England and I am overseas.
My dad’s will is causing massive problems.
10 years ago when the law in Scotland changed to take into consideration property in the calculation of Care Home fees, my parents changed their wills to leave 50% of property to surviving spouse and 25% to my sibling and me. At the time my mum was very excited about the change and kept talking about how smart they were to plan ahead. We discussed in detail that it did not mean we (my DS and I) would own the property it just meant we would ‘hold’ the asset we would NOT have say in anything to do with the house while either parent were still alive and capable.
However, now with my dad’s death my mum is claiming to have no memory of this clause, and she wants 100% of the property, she says she feels like the house is not hers and is really being quite horrible about the whole thing. My DS and I don’t want to sign over the inheritance as we think it is financially unwise and goes against my Dad’s wishes, we DO NOT want to ‘cash in’ we just want to protect the Asset, if my mum ends up going into care and the house has to be sold to pay for her care then we at least will have 50% of it to pay for additional care as we see necessary we are not looking at it as money for us. We see the house as my mums and she has 100% control over it.
I feel like my mum does not trust my DS and I to do the right thing, she is treating us like advisory’s and is refusing to believe we have her best interest at heart and am only trying to do the right thing.
I would appreciate any thoughts and help.
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Mum fighting Dad's Will
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GenerationX2 · 03/03/2017 16:15
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