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My mum is dying. I dont know wheter to take a sleeping pill or a glass of wine

(8 Posts)
Quintessing Tue 10-Jan-17 23:12:33

They say she is likely to pass away this night. I would be there, if my husband was home to stay with the kids (14 and 11). But as it is nothing I can do, I have asked they dont call me.

It has been so sudden, although, really it isn't. It has been heading this way for a while, but a slow decline. Two weeks ago she was smiling and chatting somewhat. At least she was responsive. Today she is laying, her mouth and face has sunken in in that special way. Erratic breathing, but peaceful. My dad saw her friday, she was pretty much like normal, a bit more introvert, but sitting up, and still responding to sweet talk and his old nicknames for her.

I took the kids to say good bye. This will be hard. She has had dementia for half of my youngest sons life. But my oldest still remembers a loving and vibrant gran.

MaryPoppinsPenguins Tue 10-Jan-17 23:15:04

I'm so sorry... is there no one else that can be with the kids so you can go?

ChristianGreysAnatomy Tue 10-Jan-17 23:16:03

I don't know about the wine, although I wouldn't take a sleeping pill I don't think. But really I just want to say best wishes to you and your family and I am so sorry. flowers

Blogwoman Tue 10-Jan-17 23:17:36

flowers sorry you can't be there but glad you and your dad and children have had a chance to say your goodbyes. Good to know she is peacful too. Thinking of you.

PhilODox Tue 10-Jan-17 23:19:18

So sorry, QS. thanks Am thinking of you.

lokisglowstickofdestiny1 Tue 10-Jan-17 23:22:03

I'd not have the sleeping pill, in my experience the effects linger for too long. I would have a glass of wine though if you aren't going to be driving. I'm sorry for you and your family.

Littlelegs19 Tue 10-Jan-17 23:25:21

Dementia is a awful illness. Thoughts are with you and your family. flowers

Tarrarra Thu 12-Jan-17 23:45:56

Thinking of you. It's bloody hard. I would go with the wine xflowers

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