Hi all - back again for advice and guidance. FIL is terminally ill and being cared for at home by MIL. However she is now struggling to cope as he is very frail, increasingly incontinent and decreasingly mobile. There are carers going in morning and evening to help get him up and dressed/undressed and a volunteer sits with him once a week. The district nurses and staff from the local hospice also visit ( don't know how often). The hospice will not take FIL "until the end" and won't offer respite care.
MIL now feels he will need to go into residential care. As she had promised he would stay at home until the last possible minute this has not been discussed or planned for. DH has gone to see his parents but has no idea where to begin or how this all works. They are in England and my experience of the care system is in Scotland so is different - advice and guidance welcomed please.
We assume FIL will be funded as although they own their home MIL is still living in it and they have very little in the way of savings - less than the £23000 which I believe is the limit. If he is funded does he have any say in where he would go ?
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readsalotgirl63 · 25/10/2016 23:04
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