Dm has dementia but is still aware of everything, just confused and upset that she never knows what us going to happen to her. We were managing ok with me visiting daily to do jobs, take her shopping, make sure she eats/takes tablets etc. She was fairly contented.
However a fall a few weeks ago landed her in hospital with a fractured pelvis. She had no idea what was going on during the 2 weeks in hospital and the dementia was so much worse - lots of hallucinating.
She's now out of hospital but can only shuffle a little with a frame - needs help with everything. A care package is in place : 3 carers a day plus me in the afternoons.
Every day I find her scared and upset because she thinks I've gone on holiday and left her alone. She often doesn't remember that the carers have been. She can't get to the toilet in time so I have to clean everything up which is humiliating for her and not much fun for me.
If her mobility doesn't improve in the next few weeks I can't see much option other than a care home. However she's already confused and terrified in her own home - I feel like moving her somewhere unfamiliar to be surrounded by strangers could be the last straw.
I'm at a loss and worry about it/her 24 hours a day. Any advice out there?
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I think the time is coming soon for a care home - but mum is so scared and confused.
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ZaZathecat · 20/05/2016 11:16
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