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my mum died tonight

33 replies

RiverWhy · 22/09/2015 21:22

she was 87 and frail, I am just so so sad

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Lovetunnocks · 22/09/2015 21:23

Oh River, I'm so so sorry.

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TheFallenMadonna · 22/09/2015 21:24

Sorry about your mum.

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babettessupperclub · 22/09/2015 21:24

River I'm so so sorry to hear. I don't have anything I can say to help but didn't want to say nothing- I'm sure someone will be along very soon to help you through this Flowers

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mollyonthemove · 22/09/2015 21:24

Very sad. No matter how old they are it is still a horrible time xx

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ISingSoprano · 22/09/2015 21:25

I am so very sorry. Do you need to make any arrangements tonight?

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OldCrowMedicineShow · 22/09/2015 21:25

I'm so sorry to hear you have lost your mum. Do you have someone who could be with you tonight, River?

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Shutthatdoor · 22/09/2015 21:25

River I am sorry Flowers for you

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NoelHeadbands · 22/09/2015 21:26

So sorry Thanks

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Justtrying · 22/09/2015 21:26

Hugs RiverWhy words can't convey enough thoughts, I lost my Gran to dementia, not the same all but it helps me to remember the times when I was younger before she was ill.

Hope you have RL support. Brew Flowers

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JoyceDivision · 22/09/2015 21:27

Oh big hugs op

Do you want to talk about her?

Flowers

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YetAnotherUserName · 22/09/2015 21:27

Flowers so sorry.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 22/09/2015 21:28

Flowers - really sorry to hear that

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BastardGoDarkly · 22/09/2015 21:28

Oh I'm sorry River have you got someone with you? Flowers

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badgergirl82 · 22/09/2015 21:28

I'm so sorry Flowers

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RiverWhy · 22/09/2015 21:29

Thanks for your resonses. My mum is miles and miles away so nothing I can to tonight.

Ive had to call dd at uni and break the news and tell dd at home, who suffers from annorexia and I will be away for a few days so another worry.

Im a million years old myself but cant sto crying

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Decanter · 22/09/2015 21:32

River I'm so sorry for your loss SadFlowers

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janethegirl2 · 22/09/2015 21:32

So sorry for your loss River Flowers.
Do you want to talk? Or have a hand hold?
I know I will have to deal with similar at some time as my mum is the same age as yours.
Sorry I can't be of more help, hopefully someone else can be of more use ( hugs)

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beetrootpickle · 22/09/2015 21:36

So sorry Flowers

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RiverWhy · 22/09/2015 21:44

thanks to everyone, think I just needed to say it out loud, my mum is gone....fucking hell that is sooooo hard to bear

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janethegirl2 · 22/09/2015 21:53

Can you call a friend River to be with you? To give you some emotional support or pour you some Wine or Brew?
I'm so sorry I can't help.

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Ilikesweetpeas · 22/09/2015 21:54

I'm sorry to read your sad news, thinking of you Flowers

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RiverWhy · 22/09/2015 22:01

no one I can call on, been isolated..another story.

DDs taken it as well as they can, me...im a mess.

thanks you all for your kind thoughts

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mrstweefromtweesville · 22/09/2015 22:02

I am so sorry for your loss.

I don't know if this is helpful or not, but I hope so, and will post it anyway. I had a near-death experience, about ten years ago. I saw the bright white/gold light, a garden, all the usual things. I heard my name called and ran towards the light. There was an overwhelming sense of love and joy. Love so great that forgiveness was no longer an issue. Joy so great that one would never wish to be parted from it. I was asked if there was anything left I needed to do, and I replied that I thought my dd hadn't finished with me yet. Instantly I was back in my life. The experience left me with a conviction that there is something afterwards, its not necessarily much like what comes before, but there is love and joy waiting and none of us, not one, is excluded.

May your mum have reached love and joy. Thinking of you and hoping you can find some comfort.

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janethegirl2 · 22/09/2015 22:05

Friends you can call?

Samaritans? At least you can talk about your feelings!

Or just go out and dig your garden ( I know, I'm weird, but that's what I did when I was told my DDad had died.... And it was therapeutic, by torch light tho')

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RiverWhy · 22/09/2015 22:07

May your mum have reached love and joy


this, I am hoing this

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