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MIL - lots of issues including mental health problems

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StormyLovesOdd · 14/06/2015 22:06

My MIL had a stroke 3 weeks ago, she's 84. There a huge back story but the gist of it is MIL has an untreated, OCD, she has always been very clingy with DH who is an only child and panics with anything to do with illness, dying, etc.

MIL is slowly recovering from the stroke in hospital but she wants my DH to be there with her all the time and when he isn't there she has panic attacks, crying, shouting, screaming. We have a 7 year old so DH obviously can't spend his life with his mother but I am really worried and don't know where to start with all this, does anyone have any advise, experience with this kind of situation?

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fridayfreedom · 14/06/2015 22:09

Ask if she can be seen by psychiatric liaison while she is in hospital so that she can be assessed.
people who have had strokes are often prone to lability so thid may also br a factor.

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StormyLovesOdd · 14/06/2015 22:28

Thanks, we will try this. I feel really overwellmed with all the issues with MIL at the moment and I know it's only going to get worse when she eventually comes out of hospital.

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CMOTDibbler · 16/06/2015 09:33

One thing I have learnt on my long and painful journey with my parents is that the bit when they are in hospital is when you are in the best position to get help for them.

Your dh needs to talk to the staff on the ward and ask for help for his mum. Be certain on what long term help you can realistically offer, taking your ds's needs into account, and make that very clear when they are discharge planning.

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