Hi, Both my inlaws struggle a bit with mobility FIL has diabetes and really swollen legs, MIL has parkinsons, which I am sorry to say she plays on, harsh but the truth, they are both very difficult to deal with. My DH took away the keys to their car last Xmas as FIL was unable to control the brake, clutch etc and was always leaving the handbrake off or bashing into cars and driving off. MIL went mad as she wants to go out every day, they are getting used to no car now and do go out to pubs etc using taxi's, but refuse to go food shopping, it is boring and I therefore have to collect a list weekly and order an online shop for them, as they refuse to do this either. FIL is really hit and miss with his insulin, MIL is always moaning he sleeps alot and the GP/Nurses have told him it is because he is not controlling his sugar level, therein lies the problem, every single week without fail the order contains sugar, butter, cream, 3 cakes, 3 packets of biscuits, 2-3 jars of jam, 2-3 packets of sweets, tins of fruit etc. At least half of their shop is sweet things, when I try to talk to them about it MIL say's why should I she go without. I have told them about reduced sugar etc but they are not interested. Last week I called around on the off chance and FIL has just come back in a taxi from Iceland, bearing in mind this was Tuesday and their shop was coming Thursday his bag contained, 3 packets of biscuits, large cake, sweets and trifles. When I asked him why he just looked and strugged his shoulders. Now when MIL complains about his sleeping we say you know the answer. Am I wrong to reduce the amount of biscuits etc each week, like today they will not get the sugar as I know they had a bag last week, I buy one for 3 of us once every 5 - 6 weeks. The trouble is I know they will get it elsewhere, I am wondering whether to tell them to get their own sweet stuff so I can't get cross when I see the list, if they had proper food I would not worry so much but the list today contained 2 chops, 2 chicken legs and bacon? No fresh fruit or anything, how do I deal with this, without losing my cool.
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