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My Mum RIP

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pudcat Mon 03-Feb-14 17:33:13

My mum passed away at 12.30pm today. I was with her. She was agitated all morning. Her morphine patch was doubled. Suddenly she stopped making noises and shouting Mum, was calm and gradually stopped breathing. I told her Dad was waiting for her and she could go. I hoped it helped her. All her wrinkles went. She is now free from pain. Love you Mum

yellowflowers Mon 03-Feb-14 17:33:51

So sorry for your loss. X

WynkenBlynkenandNod Mon 03-Feb-14 17:34:53

Oh Pudcat, I am so very sorry. I'm sure what you said about your Dad helped flowers

MrsCakesPremonition Mon 03-Feb-14 17:36:31

pudcat, I'm so sorry you have lost your mum. It was good you could be there to talk to her and comfort her.

Take good care of yourself. thanks

furlinedsheepskinjacket Mon 03-Feb-14 17:36:56

so sorry to hear pudcat may your mum rest in peace.

Bowednotbroken Mon 03-Feb-14 17:37:09

Very sorry for your loss. It sounds as if it was good that you were there.

LIZS Mon 03-Feb-14 17:38:54

sad so sorry

hollyisalovelyname Mon 03-Feb-14 17:44:39

May she rest in peace. What age was she Pudcat?

DrankSangriaInThePark Mon 03-Feb-14 17:45:36

Sorry for your loss. flowers She is at peace now. x

Needmoresleep Mon 03-Feb-14 17:50:05

All my condolences.

twentyten Mon 03-Feb-14 19:26:43

So very sorry pud. Sending you hugs.

CMOTDibbler Mon 03-Feb-14 19:29:03

I'm so very sorry for your loss Pudcat. Glad you were able to be with your mum at the end and that it was peaceful xx

wordsmithsforever Mon 03-Feb-14 19:29:19

thanks That sounds really hard pud - take care of yourself.

oskybosky4 Mon 03-Feb-14 19:43:04

So sorry Pud, she will be at peace now.

whataboutbob Mon 03-Feb-14 19:50:09

Sorry for your loss, you have been a faithful daughter.

Shartibartfast Mon 03-Feb-14 19:53:47

I am so sorry thanks

Take care of yourself over the next few days and weeks.

xxMrsCxx Mon 03-Feb-14 19:56:04

Sorry for your loss, you sound like an amazing daughter thanks x

DioneTheDiabolist Mon 03-Feb-14 20:04:01

I am so sorry for your loss Pudcat.

CatAmongThePigeons Mon 03-Feb-14 20:07:04

Sorry for your loss flowers

pudcat Mon 03-Feb-14 20:40:59

Thank you, this group has been so supportive. Mum was 91. I was so pleased I was there and she was not alone. She had amazing care from the NH. All the staff - nurses, carers, housekeeping, Nathan the maintenance man (who was with me when Mum stooped thrashing about and making gurgling noises in her throat) all came to say goodbye to Mum. They were all crying. They truly loved her. Nathan realised what was happening and pressed the panic button. 2 nurses ran down the corridor and saw her and said she was going. I held her and told her I loved her and it was time to go. She opened her eyes and finally gave in. My sons came over by which time the carers had got Mum ready and dressed her in her favourite dress and put her 2 favourite teddies in her arms. My sons were not sure if they wanted to see her but they did and we sat around Mum crying, laughing and talking about her for over an hour until the funeral home came. It just seemed the right thing to do. Funeral director was so kind. Now all the running around starts. Best to keep busy though.

twentyten Mon 03-Feb-14 21:37:31

Thinking of youthanksthanks

Shartibartfast Tue 04-Feb-14 21:13:17

Pudcat, I hope you take this the right way, but your DM seems to have had a dignified and good (crap word) death - you were there, and she was surrounded by love and respect, and it sounds as if her treatment in her last days was as good as it can have been. Good luck in the busy days ahead. When my 92 year old DF died last year DM and I talked a lot about the funeral and tried to make it the best it could be - lots of personal touches and sharing memories of Dad. It really helped to talk about what he would have liked ( and what he would have hated!) when we planned it. I spoke at his funeral, which I found hard, but I am really glad I did it.

pudcat Tue 04-Feb-14 21:37:39

It was a dignified death. I was able to tell her to meet Dad. I am sure she heard me. She was suddenly so calm and opened her eyes. She was loved by all at the home. It will be a simple funeral a fortnight on Friday. I only want a spray of orchids on her coffin, but have been quoted silly prices. I can but 2 orchid plants from Tesco at £12 each and make what I want. I would sooner the money was donated to the NH.

furlinedsheepskinjacket Tue 04-Feb-14 22:10:51

I agree op. unfortunately have been to a fair few funerals over the last year or so - I think single stems in particular look very poignant and beautiful. the money going to charity can do so much good.

twentyten Wed 05-Feb-14 17:48:16

How are you doing pud? Thinking of you

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