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Bit wobbly

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AvonCallingBarksdale Fri 11-Oct-13 14:35:13

My dad is in his 80s, my mum's in her late 70s. Neither is particularly mobile - mum is diabetic, very overweight, which restricts her mobility and has constant back pain. My dad had a fall a few weeks ago and fractured his leg. He's got an infection since being in hospital, which is now under control, but he's become very depressed in the hospital. They live over 70 miles away. They live in a house which is too big for them, and which they can no longer manage in. 10 years ago, we brought up the subject of moving somewhere more manageable and they refused to entertain the idea. We've mentioned it on and off since and always had the same response. I've dreaded the day when something happens to one of them and they can no longer cope, and here we are today sad. I've seen my DF in hospital - he's been a mixture of on morphine/in pain/confused/depressed/very sad. My DM cannot cope and is in tears a lot of the time, especially on the phone to me. They have been in denial for so long about their situation and now it's staring them cruelly in the face. I hate leaving my mum on her own in their house, but I have 2 young DC and a DH who works long hours. I don't want to go down again this weekend - i want an emotional break blush. I have no siblings - there's no-one else to share the visits with. Not sure what I want anyone to say, but I am quite teary and not prepared for this chapter at all.

magimedi Fri 11-Oct-13 15:06:45

I don't think there is anything I can say - it's a very, very hard place to be.

Just offering you a virtual brew & cake - I've been in your shoes & it's tough.

Take care of yourself & take a break - it's vital that you don't get ill as well.


AvonCallingBarksdale Fri 11-Oct-13 16:15:41

Thank you magimedi you're right, it is a very hard place to be - just need to let it out sometimes!

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