This story is long and involved and I'm a new poster to mumsnet (have lurked for a while) but I'd really appreciate some constructive advice on how to handle this situation.
My oldest DS had a horrible time at state primary school. He is very able and was extremely bored and disruptive at the small village school he went to - to the extent that he was being seen by the EP, being excluded from activities etc. Particularly upsetting was that in year five he was excluded from all numeracy work as he had "exhausted" the school's curriculum - he spent a year working in the library. I felt it was a very poor way to handle things and obviously it led to a lot more boredom and disruption on his part.
So we looked at all the schools he could realistically switch to and identified the best option as the junior school of an academically selective boys school about fifteen miles away. We entered him for the entrance exam to join in y6 and he obtained a bursary. His life has been transformed by the change in school - despite me being warned by his state headmistress that he was the problem and would take it with him where ever he went. He obtained a scholarship and a bursary to the senior school where he is very happy in y7.
Now, to the current problem. When we moved DS1 we also moved DS2, who is one academic year younger. He was reasonably happy at the state school but we felt relations had broken down to such an extent that we didn't want a child continuing in the school and particularly we did not want him to be taught by the teacher that had excluded ds1 from numeracy! DS2 also obtained a bursary to the junior school - he is able but not outstanding in the way DS1 is. He has been there for four terms, has been in some minor trouble (e.g. "messing about" during a games lesson) and not worked particularly hard but he is in the top stream and has always been at least in the top third of that.
We have just had a letter from the headmaster of the senior school to tell us that he is not offering DS2 a bursary to the senior school but is happy to offer him a full fees place.
I feel quite betrayed as it is clear from the bursaries we currently have that we can't afford this. DS1 was offered a full fees scholarship to another school for y7 and I was persuaded to turn it down by the headmaster who has now rejected DS2.
Last year we didn't even bother to apply for a state school secondary place for DS1. Fortunately we did for DS2. I put as first preference a grammar school about fifteen miles away - different LA. Although I don't know until March 3rd if he has a place I have had a letter telling me his exam position which implies that he will have. As our own LA were rubbish at intervening in DS1' situation (although they told me excluding him from numeracy was totally unacceptable they didn't take any action) I'm keen not to send the boys to their schools in future. However getting to the school would involve me dropping DS2 at a bus stop about four miles from our house at quarter past seven in the morning.
I haven't told DS2 about the rejection. He is apparently first on the list if anyone turns down a bursary. How likely is this to happen? I don't even know what date people have to make a decision by. DS2 wants to stay at current school. I feel like they made a commitment to him by giving him a bursary in Y5 and that I made a big commitment to the school when I turned down a 100% scholarship for DS1 elsewhere.
I really want some advice on how I should approach things with current school please.
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Advice on bursary issue at 11+ school please
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NKffffffff8ae2d0caX11809b1a972 · 11/02/2008 18:43
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