I'd like to hear from mumsnetter who are/have been in asimilar situation:
dh and I do not beleive in God, even though we have been baptised, confirmed etc etc, we drifted away from religion while growing up. For this reason we decided not to baptise dd, as we found it hypocritical.
she's only 15 months but a friend of mine has been nagging me about going to church or she won't get a place at the local COE school which apparently is the best around, while the only good non-faith schools are some distance away and we might not get a place for other reasons.
NOw I don't mind if dd gets a religious education, actually I'm sure I'm a better person because of the christian principles that have been taught to me (like tolerance, love, etc), and she can decide for herself once she's older.
The problem though is that I'd find it very difficult to go and pretend that I'm a believer, you don't just have to go to church, you need to make friends with the vicar or no one will remember your daughter's name when it comes to it.
So I thought I'll try with the other schools when the time comes, then my friend told me 'you know it's not just about churhc it's the community spirit, after mass they ahve tea together, you get to know people from the local community, it's nice'. And this made think, since it's difficul today even to know your neighbours, this idea of a community really appeals to me, especially since I'm quite new to the area and all my family live abroad.
one other point is that all my friends children go, or will go to this school and dd already knows most of them, and we tend to spend a lot of time together, so itw ould be nicer for her to go to the same school.
Oh this is all so difficult, my firnd says I don't really need to go that often, maybe I can volounteer for the creche (I'd like this), still, I'm unsure, and all this made me think of yet another problem: when it comes to it, what do I tell dd about God? I can't tell her things I don't feel, but I don't think I should tell I don't beleive in him either (not when everyone else says the opposite, I think she'd be too young to understand the different opinions).
This is a long message, I hope if anyone had the patience to read it to the end will be able to give me some advice, most of my friends seems to be believers or at least very flexible about the issue, so I don't know anyone who shares my views.
thanks to all you
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chiara71 · 16/09/2002 08:24
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