I feel really silly about this, and I know I'm probably making a fuss about nothing, and will laugh when I look back, but I need to get it off my chest. Dh just doesn't seem to understand it at all, so I can't really talk to him about how I feel.
Ds is nearly 5 and starts school in September. I feel really really awful about this. It's not as if I have him at home all the time or anything - I work and he goes to nursery 4 days a week - and I never thought him starting school would bother me at all. But it does. Every time I think about it, it makes me want to cry.
He's at a lovely nursery, with wonderful staff and some very good friends. Because of the nursery fees most of his friends are leaving within the next couple of weeks, to spend time at home before school starts, and I know he'll miss them a lot (although he will be going to school with a couple of them in September).
He has met his Reception teacher once, briefly, at the school. One of the other Reception teachers came to visit his nursery (to see two children who will be in her class), but although the Head said she would, my son's Reception teacher hasn't visited him at nursery, nor has she talked to his group teacher there. She has, however, visited children at the State nursery school just down the road. So why not my son?
Our contact with his Infants School has been minimal. We have received two letters from them - one (2 weeks before the date) telling us about the introductory parent's evening (which was when we were on holiday), and one then rearranging our visit date which only turned up because I got fed up waiting to find out when he was supposed to start school - it seems it was mislaid under a pile of paper in the school office. Even contacting the school is a faff - none of their correspondance has a phone number on it.
When he starts he has to go half time for 5 weeks (a nightmare to sort out work around - but I can't afford to give up work for the sake of 5 weeks). The Head will not budge on this - she says the Reception teachers need the afternoons to do preparation (5 weeks of preparation? - all I can say is that what she's delivering had better be bl**dy stunning). Luckily his nursery have agreed to have him for afternoon sessions only, which is better than him going to a strange childminder for 5 weeks, but none of his friends will be there, only younger children.
The school is supposed to be a good one, and the children I know who are there now seem happy, but I'm so unhappy about it. They seem really unwelcoming somehow, yet in their school prospectus they make a big thing about wanting parents to be involved (all very PC)and always being welcome in school. I feel that I've been given no opportunity to ask any of the questions I have - the one visit we were invited to was very short and very much aimed at the children - and I have no idea how often I will be able to talk to the teacher about ds's progress, or even how to go about this (for security reasons parents are not allowed inside school at picking-up time), and as the Reception classes are at the far end of the school I hardly imagine I'll be bumping into her much. I haven't even been given any general background about the school, such as what the kids will be doing, or how often they have parent's evenings etc. Maybe all this will come when he starts school?
My ds will in all probability take all this in his stride. I'm trying very hard not to let my anxiety infect him, but I am upset. I can't help it. I probably should have taken the bull by the horns and made an appointment to see the Head, but I've been trying to stop feeling like this because I think I'm probably being daft - and it doesn't do to cry in front of your son's new head teacher, does it? And now it's the end of term and too late.
Sorry to go on about it - I just needed to tell someone.
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Azzie · 25/07/2002 15:01
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