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Mummies view please

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crow3 Mon 16-Oct-17 20:48:53

I am currently study communication between early years practitioners and parents, and I would like a parents perspective on this. How do staff communicate with you at your child's setting? Which methods work best for you, or don't work at all. Any tips on how information sharing between staff and parents could be improved.
Thank you

MyYoniFromHull Mon 16-Oct-17 20:49:42

We don't like being called mummies. Hth

Ttbb Mon 16-Oct-17 20:49:45

We just have a few quick words at pick up. Works well.

Heratnumber7 Mon 16-Oct-17 20:50:49


crow3 Mon 16-Oct-17 20:51:29

I am sorry I didn't mean to offend

NapQueen Mon 16-Oct-17 20:52:04

Are you interested in any Daddies views?

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Mon 16-Oct-17 20:55:33

My current view is the living room and DanTDM on the tv, but I prefer email and class dojo.

sirfredfredgeorge Mon 16-Oct-17 21:00:52

As you've probably guessed, the use of language around parental identities is your first important thing to recognise. As easy as it is to fall into the trap of using mummy, daddy and similar don't, use names if possible.

crow3 Mon 16-Oct-17 21:11:40

Thank you. It was a silly mistake to make

2014newme Tue 17-Oct-17 11:24:13


FoxyinherRoxy Tue 17-Oct-17 14:33:31

If I were you i’d Report the this thread and start again.

I dont understand why people think referring to grown women as ‘mummies’ is the thing to do. Maybe in tHe first fortnight of having your first newborn, but not really applicable to knackered parents of teenagers. Anyway, I digress... (but that’s kind of my point too..)
Good luck anyhow.

Callamia Tue 17-Oct-17 14:37:32

I also hate being 'mummy', and many of the parents doing drop-offs and pick-ups at my son's nursery are Dads too.

That aside, I like to talk to someone from his room. My son is in the pre-school room. His key worker might not be working the late shift, but they will pass in any important messages to their colleagues who are.

For younger children, the nursery use a diary system, which covers all reporting bases and sometimes attach photos etc. I LOVE receiving photos of my child's day.

Impostress99 Tue 17-Oct-17 16:36:25

Why mummies views for a project on parents?

What about daddies?

What about critical reflection on language and the power of words?

Ninjakittysmells Tue 17-Oct-17 16:39:50

Ds had an app called Tapestry we could download and all photos taken that day would be put on there. I loved that as I could use it as a tool to chat to Ds about his day.

Ds teacher would chat to you at drop off / pick up if there was an issue. I’ve also emailed if something occurred to me during the day.

Ninjakittysmells Tue 17-Oct-17 16:40:31

^ and what they said to the mummy stuff

trollarama Tue 17-Oct-17 22:52:10

1. 2 people in this world have thr right to call me Mummy. And it isnt and never will be any member of staff at their school. Not only is it patronising to be called Mummy its also dehumanising. I'm not just Mummy, I have a life and identity of my own thanks.
While you might be knowledgeable about children in the early years I am the expert in my children. Parents as professionals and all of that........
Troll, Mrs Rama, Dc's mum or at a pinch Mrs Dc's surname will all suffice.

But right now my view is of the TV however if I look to my right I can see my washing up piled up in the kitchen. And Daddy is doing the washing up.

You can call him Dr Dc's Surname

PerfectlyDone Tue 17-Oct-17 22:54:56

I always find talking works fine for mummies and daddies. AND all sorts of other people.

MummySparkle Tue 17-Oct-17 22:56:38

I’ll second tapestry being fab.

Clutterbugsmum Tue 17-Oct-17 23:00:51

The best thing you can do is get someone who can spell, use correct grammar and can write a clear non ambiguous letter, with all the facts, timings correct. It shouldn't be too hard after all it's what you teach all day.

everybodysang Tue 17-Oct-17 23:02:16

They talk to daddy because mummy is off working at her high powered job.

Daddy also has an important job but does it from home as well as dealing with childcare.

Anyone who calls me mummy can fuck right off.

RedDahlia Tue 17-Oct-17 23:04:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bekabeech Wed 18-Oct-17 11:13:15

It is also possibly upsetting for the child - what if they don't have a Mummy?
If our names are not known we are usually addressed as the Carers of X.
The key person to communicate with could be the mother or the father or the step parent or grandparent or Foster parent or guardian or even an adult sibling (or something else). If you don't know that then any communication or innovation in method of communication is likely to miss the point.

ExhaustedPigeon Wed 18-Oct-17 11:29:13

Ok I think the mummies point has been covered so I won’t repeat.

Our Nursery uses tapestry which is fab. I can see photos and read the reports and it saves them printing everything out and sticking into folders. You can also reply and add your own. I don’t generally do this as I’m not sure whether they’d be interested or not so maybe make it clear if you are.

My baby also has a sheet given at the end of the day with nappy changes, food, milk and nap times on.

When we arrive they make sure their key worker answers the door so they are always handed over to the same person. Same at the end - if they are not there they will have told someone else what’s been going on. We get a verbal report at pick up covering the main things they have done, how they’ve been that day and any issues. I think it’s plenty and works well.

ExhaustedPigeon Wed 18-Oct-17 11:32:32

We also get newsletters emailed with dates, topics being looked at, and any reminders or requests. Outside of the day to day chats every thing is emailed which I prefer to paper letters

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