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Daughter has 3 A-Levels (AAB) but 2 years on, still hasn't done anything with them.

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HappyBlue10 Sun 26-Feb-17 23:54:40


DD works in Tesco (she likes it, but doesn't want to be there forever, but works there part-time to gain some money). She also volunteers but she hates it (admin type volunteering but for a charity).

She has saved about £5,000 and has brought a car and can drive.

She now wants to do more education but admits she can't stand the subjects she took at a level (only thing she enjoys from them is the Maths she did) but says she hates all careers that it leads to.

She's so bloody negative and has no ambition.

She rolls out of bed at 4pm and spends the rest of her time watching YouTube videos. Yes she works (but only 11 hrs a week) and volunteering is only an hour a week.

She helps around the house but really, I can't stand how lazy she is! She has 12 hours of work to do a week and that's it.

She says she wants to be a scientist that deals with wildlife but laughs when I say she can do it, as she says no one ever gets a job in it and then strolls off back to her room.

She tried to get some wildlife experience (volunteering) but out of the 4 places she applied to, none said she could (2 didn't even reply).

I am so done with her. She is 18 now and really needs to sort herself out. Grrrr.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Mon 27-Feb-17 00:01:43

She completed her a levels at 16?

Ferrisday Mon 27-Feb-17 00:02:40

She got a levels at 16?
Can she do any other a levels? The subjects she might be interested in ?

HappyBlue10 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:06:37

No, she's 19. 18 was typo.

Finola1step Mon 27-Feb-17 00:07:05


Finola1step Mon 27-Feb-17 00:07:27

Ah, x post.

HappyBlue10 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:09:19

Sorry for the confusion!

--Fat thumbs
Proof read--

babyunicornvomit Mon 27-Feb-17 00:11:55

Just to let you know, my best mate did Maths, Biology and Chemistry at A-Level and is studying English Lit now, she just had to submit a 'test' essay and show her passion for the subject! Thats at a top 10 UK uni too. If your daughter has no interest in her A-Level subjects it shouldnt be a problem really.
I'd agree she needs to do something though - my mum made me work full time and contribute to the household (not loads but 10% of my earnings), before I got my act together and went to uni. She should do more, she sounds clever and Tesco isn't really testing her. Good luck to her! And if she's looking at uni's, look at Lancaster! I go there and it's great grin

antimatter Mon 27-Feb-17 00:12:10

She isn't paying her bills so she has no motivation to work longer hours.

Plenty of full-time volunteering posts if she wants to invest some of her savings into finding out what is like to do it.

IHeartKingThistle Mon 27-Feb-17 00:13:20

Oh tricky. So she still lives at home?

Slightly different but BIL graduated with a good degree then worked in a record shop for nearly 10 years before he figured out what he wanted to do. Now high earner in big company etc.

At least when she does figure it out she has her qualifications under her belt. She won't have to go back and get her GCSEs like so many people have to. But in the meantime I bet it is infuriating.

Does she pay towards her keep?

HappyBlue10 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:16:06

I thought that about uni, but don't you have to be 21? So considered a mature student? She turns 20 soon, but still a little way to go.

She pays £50 a month.

Thanks for the advice. Those trips abroad seem very good and a great way to find experience.

user1488153080 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:17:27

Please dont give up on her. Im sure you wont as she is your DD but she needs encouragement- that and a rocket up her arse.

Im 25 and starting a new job tomorrow. It will be the first time ive worked in 8 years due to health issues and then completely losing my confidence to go and actually do something.

At 20/21 I thought it wouldn't matter and had plenty of time but im horrified how quickly the years have gone by and what I could of achieved by now if I just got on with it and at least tried.

From a positive point of view- she is doing SOMETHING. So there is no gap on her CV, she has a reference to give an employer and volunteering will look good on her CV no matter how little she is doing.

Could you sit down with her at the computer maybe and look at jobs with her and help her apply? It wasn't until someone helped me look and to apply for a job that gave me the confidence to go to the interview and I got it.

Ferrisday Mon 27-Feb-17 00:17:38

I finished my a levels and worked for 4 years before I went to Uni. Was full time though, in a bank, so career type job.

I did a level English at night school, much more interesting than my school a levels, so did that at Uni

Leggit Mon 27-Feb-17 00:25:07

Why does she have to be 21 to go to uni?

HappyBlue10 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:26:04

I mean 21 to be able to get on a course without having previous qualifications that are related?

5OBalesofHay Mon 27-Feb-17 00:35:10

Why does she have to go to university? If she likes working at Tesco could she get more hours?

HappyBlue10 Mon 27-Feb-17 00:37:46

She likes it as a part time job and is adamant she doesn't want to be there forever.

She doesn't have to go to uni but has expressed an interest in uni education.

BettyBaggins Mon 27-Feb-17 00:41:32

THIS is the last opportunity to apply for this paid 12 week live in wildlife conservation training.

She has saved £5000?! Wow!

5OBalesofHay Mon 27-Feb-17 00:42:20

I think you may have to leave her to work this one out. I think that is the hardest part of young adult offspring. Makes you nostalgic for the toddler years!

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Mon 27-Feb-17 00:53:10

Has she looked into zoology or wildlife conservation degrees? If she didn't do sciences at A level she could always do a foundation year.

There should be some interesting voluntary opportunities out there too. Has she looked at the local zoo for opportunities etc? Would've thought that would be a fab start

JudgeJudySheidlin Mon 27-Feb-17 01:24:21

A friend of DS's girlfriend has been offered a science related course at a top flight uni this September. She left sixth form in 2015 with A Levels in arts subjects so no you don't have to be 21 to qualify for university based only on experience.

BTW I know how you feel as I have a DS who left sixth form 3 years ago & is working in a warehouse. He's bored to tears yet hasn't pushed himself to look for something more suitable. His self esteem is quite good, but he's painfully shy with new people. I know he'll be OK but until then I'm going to continue to worry about him!

titchy Mon 27-Feb-17 07:41:54

She could start a course with a foundation year this September. If she leaves it another year she'd probably have to do an Access to Science course.

Assuming she wants to go to university of course.

happygardening Mon 27-Feb-17 08:04:43

IME it's not uncommon for this age group to not have the faintest idea about what they want to do and some do feel they have the "wrong A" levels. Has she looked at Scottish universities? The ones we've looked at Edinburgh and Glasgow want you to take three subject in the first year and they don't all have to be related to your A levels. Glasgow in particular seems to be very flexible, we met a 2nd year student who did three subjects in her first year 1 was one of her A levels 2 weren't by the end of the 1st year she discovered she didn't like any of them and was doing three (or maybe two) completely unrelated subjects in her second year and was planning to continue 1 of these for her third and fourth year. She loved the flexibility it offered. I love Edinburgh to visit but Glasgow I suspect would be better to live in especially if your young, it has a real buzz to it, it's significantly less touristy that Edinburgh and very friendly. The only problem is the weather isn't great.

Mary21 Mon 27-Feb-17 08:43:59 or workaway

2014newme Mon 27-Feb-17 11:37:08

4 places is hardly any. People write to 40 places.
This apathy would drive me mad too she sounds depressed

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