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Anybody else waiting for 11+ results - just looking for some company

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Mumski45 Tue 27-Sep-16 10:05:02

DS1 took the 11+ test last weekend. He was upset coming out of the test as he thought he must not have done well just because some other kids finished before him.
He really wants to go to the Grammar School so I am having a tough time managing his emotions at the moment. We have just over a week to wait for the results but I don't know the parents of the other lad in DS's class who took the test well enough to chat about it.

Would love to hear from anyone else going through the same worries.

AnnieMated1 Tue 27-Sep-16 10:08:58

We are! DS1 took it on 8th September here in Kent. Nail biting few weeks - for me mainly it seems - he doesn't seem too concerned!

Unlockable Tue 27-Sep-16 10:14:55

Not this year. Thankfully past that now after doing it for the last two years in a row
Just a take from my sons experience.
He was utterly, completely convinced he had failed. Told me he didn't finish either paper, and there 'were loads of questions he guessed at the end'

He was usually a good judge of how he had done, not this time though. He got 278 and the max score was 280 with a pass mark of 236. Even when I told him he had passed he didn't believe me and proceeded to ask me what I had done to 'fix it'

A year later DD sailed in and out, confident she had passed not a worry in the world and got the same score as her brother

Mumski45 Tue 27-Sep-16 10:23:11

It's hard isn't it Annie. I can't seem to get it out of my head. Not sure why I am like this as I am normally quite laid back.

Luckily we do have lots of good comprehensives here as we are not a fully selective system so there is a plan B and C.

Mumski45 Tue 27-Sep-16 10:28:48

Its good to hear that they can be so wrong Unlockable.

DS is convinced he has not got in and gets quite emotional when he thinks about it. I am just trying to take his mind off it all at the moment as best I can so hopefully if we get bad news in a weeks time he will have already accepted what he thinks is inevitable and be ready to move on.

AnnieMated1 Tue 27-Sep-16 10:41:05

I secretly think DS is trying to act unconcerned when really he is. He worked his socks off for it, had high CATs in the run up to the test and was as prepared as anyone could be I think. But like you, we have a few other good options nearby, so all being well it'll all work out for the best...that's what I keep telling myself anyway!! When do you find out? Ours is 13th October so a little while yet. Apparently Kent headteachers already have scores...aaargh...

namechangedtoday15 Tue 27-Sep-16 15:13:18

Was in the same boat last year. It was a horrible time. Twins here so had the added worry of one passing and one not passing, and how that would affect them. And single sex here so were waiting for 2 sets of result which came out 24 hours apart. God it was stressful. Good luck.

Tronkmanton Tue 27-Sep-16 15:21:53

I'm in the same boat too, but here in Lincs we have to wait until 15th Oct. it's a Saturday too so we have the added stress of hunting down the postman!! I was quite laid back when my DD did it two years ago - thought she was a dead cert to pass (how naive!) but she got exactly 220 which is the pass mark! Scraped in by the skin of her teeth!! So this time I'm less laid back...my DS has worked so hard, just want that to pay off iyswim? But as others have said option B is excellent so it's far from the end of the world!!

Mumski45 Tue 27-Sep-16 16:00:13

Our results come out on the 5th by email so thankfully won't be waiting for the postman. That must have been stressful namechanged luckily it's all behind you now.

DS has worked hard as well and I really feel for him going through this so young but he wanted to do it and really did work hard on his technique. He is not naturally a quick worker and likes to take his time to check things so we hard to work on the importance of timing.

PettsWoodParadise Tue 27-Sep-16 18:53:25

I went through all this last year. We had three lots of results, the last of which was the one DD really wanted so it was like unwinding a highly compacted coil of wire over a matter of ten days. It was all-consuming. I had some great work colleagues who took the brunt of my finding out and DH who staked out the letter box and scanned me the results at work when the letter arrived. We were fortunate as we knew that DD had scored high enough to get into her favourite school but I know for some regions there is still uncertainty until 1st March so it isn't always over when you get the result in October. Some schools have second stage tests that take place in November which seems very unfair. It was also awkward in real life with some friends whose DCs didn't pass and I really wanted to shout to the rafters how proud I was of DD but it would have been too insensitive to others. MN is great for that sort of thing grin.

Good luck to you all waiting for results and hope you've already given your amazing DCs a reward for their hard work irrespective of the result.

Mumski45 Tue 27-Sep-16 19:12:54

Thanks PettsWood for sharing your experience. In our area I think if DS scores high enough we will be told that he has got a place (but not the score) and 1st March will be a rubber stamp. If he has passed but not scored high enough for a place then I think he goes on the waiting list and hope that some people who have qualified for a place don't take it up. The waiting could then go on beyond 1 March sad.

I agree about it being awkward to talk about in real life. I have one good friend who I can chat to who knows me inside out but in general I am keeping quiet. There is one other boy from DS's class who has applied and who we think will get in easily and a few more who have applied to the girls school however I don't know any of the parents very well and would be nervous of upsetting them by saying the wrong thing.

Rewards for all the effort put in have already been given/promised so that they are not associated with getting a place or not, I really don't want DS to think of it as a failure if he doesn't get a place, its just something that wasn't meant to be.

Dixiechickonhols Wed 28-Sep-16 19:52:01

Hi mumski I recognise your name from the other forum. We are same area but different school. Find out by 12th October by post but last year they came earlier on the Saturday which would be the 8th. Dd seems ok hasn't really mentioned it last few days. I'm trying to keep busy to keep my mind off things. Is a very odd limbo time. Off to another high school open evening on Thursday.

Mumski45 Wed 28-Sep-16 21:06:41

Hi Dixiechick

Like you I think DS is better at putting it to the back of his mind than I am. I am struggling to get him to think about going to visit other schools at the moment as he so wants to go to this one.

Good luck on 12th (or earlier).

claricestar Thu 29-Sep-16 05:20:00

Hi mumski. Also recognise you from other forum, although I have different user name on here. We are also waiting for same school 5th oct email. Ds is pretty cool about it but I'm the one obsessing and thinking of back up plans. It's GS or bust for DS. He had high cat scores and prepared as well as he could (without private tutor), plus in catchment... But it still feels like a bit of a lottery getting a place

Middleoftheroad Sat 01-Oct-16 09:31:14

I'm waiting forcresults on 14 and 17 October for twin DS so added worry/various different possible outcomes. Five weeks are dragging.....

Middleoftheroad Sat 01-Oct-16 09:32:23

I wish we got results via email too as postie comes after I've gone to work....

portico Sat 01-Oct-16 09:50:39

To the OP and other parents of 11+ grammar school exam takers, just relax and carry on with BAU. Lots come out worrying about the paper, and still end up at grammar school. Been there myself, in 2013 and 2015. I did see my ds2 have a few jittery moments in the intervening 5 weeks to the results. Just told him grammar school would be the ideal result but not the end of the world. I would support him at the comprehensive with supplementary work at home, to give him a grammar school rigour. But he had also done his best in his studies, and so we were proud regardless. Need to let them know and feel that you are proud of them unconditionally.

Ollycat Sat 01-Oct-16 09:50:55

Fingers crossed for you - relieved to have got my 2 through and out the other side (now year 7 and 9). We are in Bucks and the children are given the results in a sealed envelope at the end of the day. Waiting for them to get home and then trying to nonchalantly open the envelope was very hard.

Wish in yiu luck x

kilmuir Sat 01-Oct-16 09:54:48

Tronkmanton we are Lincolnshire too.
My DD has not mentioned the exam since last weekend. Only a few took it from her village school, hopefully all passed
We are last in village to get post so could be afternoon until we find out.
I was more worried when her older sister took it a few years back

Mumski45 Sat 01-Oct-16 21:04:58

Good luck Claricestar. We are OOC so possibly a higher target to reach. Still getting very nervous when I think about results day as I don't want DS to be disappointed with himself. He has worked his socks off and it would really give him a boost.

Thanks for your kind words portico it's good to hear from people who have already gone through all this and come out the other side.

Good luck to everyone waiting for postmen or emails smile

Dixiechickonhols Tue 04-Oct-16 16:36:05

Good luck for tomorrow Lancaster posters, we still have another week to wait.

Mumski45 Tue 04-Oct-16 16:47:14

Thanks Dixiechick currently keeping fingers arms and legs all crossed. Trying not to think about it but DS2 keeps reminding DS1 that there is only one more sleep to go.

Mumski45 Wed 05-Oct-16 17:44:29

Hi all
Our email arrived at 10am this morning. Was a bit frustrating as I was out on my bike and initially didn't have a good enough signal to download the content. Had to ride around for a bit and mess with my phone but eventually found out DS has passed and been offered an OOC place at the grammar school he wanted.

So glad we don't have to wait till March to find out where he will be next year.

Good luck to all of you still waiting for results. grin

Dixiechickonhols Wed 05-Oct-16 17:50:42

Congratulations to your son mumski45. Fantastic result out of catchment. You must all be delighted. Our wait goes on results due by 12th even though exam was same day as you. Post not email too.

claricestar Wed 05-Oct-16 18:23:50

Our son got his place too! very relieved!

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