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raggers1212 Thu 21-Apr-16 15:29:30

Hi I'm looking for some advice.

My daughter is 4yrs and has lived with her grandparents for the past two years n half years.
Originally her grandparents took her in as I was battling bad depression.
When I got healthy they unfortunately didn't agree she should come home.

After being in and out of courtrooms for the last year, with multiple assessments, the court ruled outright that there's no reason why she shouldn't be back with me, my fiance and our son. Yay!!

Anyway she's been through a transition stage, slowly introducing her back to our home etc.

So Friday is her last day at her current school as she starts her new school near our home on monday.
I'm due to pick her up at her old school on Friday to start her permanent life back home.
Unfortunately throughout all this her grandparents have made things very difficult.
When I would usually pick her up from school they would gather all their family side and friends to say goodbye. This makes my daughter very upset and obviously not wanting to leave them as everyone is there.

I just know it's going to be even worse on her last day.

So I wanted to know if I can legally pick her up from school an hour early to prevent any stress to her.

Just for the record I have full parental responsibility and her grandparents have none.

If I am legally able to pick her up an hour early would I need to contact her school first? Like call them in the morning to explain or can I simply turn up?

I know with my son's school this wouldn't be an issue but some schools are different.

Thanx in advance smile


Heirhelp Thu 21-Apr-16 15:34:45

I would tell a little white lie and tell the school that you will be picking her up at 2 as she has a dentist appointment.

pippistrelle Thu 21-Apr-16 15:39:28

Presumably the school know the situation, so I would just tell them the truth, and say you'll be picking her up early to avoid a potentially stressful scene.

RustyBear Thu 21-Apr-16 15:39:43

I would let the school know in advance as a courtesy, so they know she will need to be ready early - you don't want to arrive to find she's in PE and needs to get dressed before she can go!

Also, as it's her last day, they will have to make sure she has everything with her - at our school, children who leave are usually given a card signed by the class to say goodbye, if there's anything like that planned it would be a pity if she had to miss it.

Just write a note to say she needs to leave early and what time you will pick her up, it shouldn't be a problem.

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Thu 21-Apr-16 15:42:38

I'm sure they won't disagree. My dd was allowed out an hour early to visit the hospital when I had baby number 2.

RebootYourEngine Thu 21-Apr-16 15:53:40

I would let the school know that you are picking her up early.

Her grandparents sound a bit strange. Why did they make you go to court to have your own daughter back?

raggers1212 Thu 21-Apr-16 16:25:56

Thank you everyone smile

Feel abit better now.
I know it's a difficult situation and just want to cause her as little stress as possible.


raggers1212 Thu 21-Apr-16 16:35:30

Her grandparents took me to court because they wanted to keep her.

Her grandparents are my parents. Well dad n step mother. They are odd ppl.
And as yet they still haven't revealed why exactly they wanted to keep her.
Even when asked by the judge there was no definitive answer.

My own theory is that for my dad it was a way for him to have a second chance as he put me in care as a baby.
As for the step mother. Well throughout my life she has caused myself and others heartache in different ways.
I feel she was just using my daughter to cause pain.

I know how that sounds... Like a movie plot or something. But if you knew the ins and outs of the past 30 years then you'd understand smile


Berthatydfil Thu 21-Apr-16 16:42:17

I would collect her much earlier. Possibly even in the morning as soon as I had got confirmation that she was in school.
It's not like her attendance is going to be an issue as she is leaving anyway.

popperdoodles Thu 21-Apr-16 16:42:21

Speak to school and explain truthfully what the situation is. They should then support a smooth transition and pick up and if collecting a bit early turns out to be the best solution then they will support that.

Lunar1 Thu 21-Apr-16 16:48:34

Collect her when they finish for lunch time. It still gives her time to say bye to her friends and teachers.

RebootYourEngine Sun 24-Apr-16 09:06:19

How did friday go? Hope your dd has settled back home with no drama flowers

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