Hi everyone
Bit of background info! So my DCs are in year 9 and year 11. Both went to the local state primary school with the original plan to keep them there until year 6 and then send them both to private secondary schools. However DS was being bullied so we decide to move him for the start of year 3 to the private school he would have gone to anyway for year 7. DD was happy at primary school so kept her there until the end. She then started at a small all girls private.
DH and I made the decision a while back that we would send them to state 6th form. The fees are just too high at their schools plus there are very few pupils so we thought it would better prepare them for uni going to a bigger school. However my son has now been awarded a bursary to stay on, meaning we can afford it. He was never bullied in secondary like he was in primary but he is a very sensitive, quite timid lad and it's only really been in year 11 that he's formed a close group of friends and actually has a social life. I was always anxious about taking him out anyway so now a lot of the fees can be paid for him, I would love to let him stay.
But is this fair on DD? I know we won't be able to afford for her to stay on at her school and she is very very happy there. She's only in year 9 but already talks about how much she doesn't want to leave. Would it be wrong of me to let one DC stay on in their private school and make the other leave? I'm really torn as to how to approach this. What do I say to ds? "Sorry I know it's possible for you to stay but it's unfair on your sister?"
It's partly to do with how happy they are but also the education itself. I'm nervous that after 5 years of very small classes and a lot of one on one help, DD may struggle in a bigger sixth form meaning her grades may be affected so is it fair that DS won't have those issues? And chances are will get slightly bette grades considering there's just around 45 in the whole sixth form? I feel so conflicted!! Any input would be really great
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ClareMandy · 11/04/2014 13:03
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