I am struggling to find the appropriate level of support to give my Y7 DS in maths.
At his non-selective primary school, DS was considered to be of high ability in maths. While the teachers did what they could to support him, he ended up helping out quite a bit with other children who were finding maths taxing rather than going further into the subject himself. DS found teaching quite rewarding and I was laid back about him not being really challenged as, with a maths/science background myself, I enjoyed working with him at home, especially in Y6 when the grammar school exams were coming up.
At this stage, DP was supportive of my input and DS went along with it all amiably as there was a general atmosphere in the house of getting into grammar school being a good thing.
DS is now at grammar school and finds himself to be distinctly average in his maths class, although maths remains one of his favourite and stronger subjects.
DS hasn't got a competitive bone in his body and is quite happy to be in the middle of the class.
Nevertheless, I would like to continue to help him with maths in a fun way and perhaps compensate a little for his non-optimal primary school experience. My idea would be to do a 10 minute maths puzzle together every now and then to 'tickle' the mathematical thinking part of his brain. The emphasis would be on logical, creative and lateral thinking.
I would NEVER present DS with sheet after sheet of Kumonesque maths problems, as I feel that sort of repetitive stuff, while probably necessary and useful to a degree, is more soul-destroying than fun - and can be done in class if need be anyway.
DP says I should leave it completely up to DS whether we do any mathematical activities whatsoever outside of school stuff and that all of his education should be left entirely up to his teachers now. He thinks I am trying to massage my own ego by attempting to boost him up to the top of the class whereas 'average' might be his natural position.
I know DS is not going to come up to me voluntarily and suggest we do maths together. He'd much rather mooch around and do his gaming. He has also been influenced by DP's negative reaction to the idea of maths puzzles so it would be hard to get him to even have a go now.
I still believe DS has a gift for maths but, the question is, am I being too keen?
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